Southern women know their summer weather report:
Humidity, Humidity, Humidity
Southern women know their vacation spots:
The beach,The rivuh,The crick
Southern women know everybody's first name:
Honey, Darlin', Shugah
Southern women know the movies that speak to their hearts:
Fried Green Tomatoes, Driving Miss Daisy, Steel Magnolias, Gone With The Wind
Southern women know their religions:
Baptist, Methodist, Football
Southern women know their cities dripping with Southern charm:
Chawl'stn, S'vanah, Foat Wuth, N'awlins, Addlanna
Southern women know their elegant gentlemen:
Men in uniform, Men in tuxedos, Rhett Butler
Southern girls know their prime real estate:
The Mall, The Country Club, The Beauty Salon
Southern girls know the 3 deadly sins:Having bad hair and nails, Having bad manners, Cooking bad food
More Suthen-ism's:
Only a Southerner knows the difference between a hissie fit and a conniption fit, and that you don't "HAVE" them, you "PITCH" them._____
Only a Southerner knows how many fish, collard greens, turnip greens, peas, beans, etc., make up "a mess."
Only a Southerner can show or point out to you the general direction of "yonder."
Only a Southerner knows exactly how long "directly" is, as in: "Going to town, be back directly."
Even Southern babies know that "Gimme some sugar" is not a request for the white, granular sweet substance that sits in a pretty little bowl in the middle of the table.
All Southerners know exactly when "by and by" is. They might not use the term, but they know the concept well.
Only a Southerner knows instinctively that the best gesture of solace for a neighbor who's got trouble is a plate of hot fried chicken and a big bowl of cold potato salad. If the neighbor's trouble is a real crisis, they also know to add a large banana puddin!
Only Southerners grow up knowing the difference between "right near" and "a right far piece.."
hey also know that "just down the road" can be 1 mile or 20
Only a Southerner, both knows and understands, the difference between a redneck, a good ol' boy, and po' white trash.
No true Southerner would ever assume that the car with the flashing turn signal is actually going to make a turn.
A Southerner knows that "fixin" can be used as a noun, a verb, or an adverb.
Only Southerners make friends while standing in lines, ... and when we're "in line,"... we talk to everybody! Put 100 Southerners in a room and half of them will discover they're related, even if only by marriage.
In the South, y'all is singular, all y'all is plural.
Southerners know grits come from corn and how to eat them.
Every Southerner knows tomatoes with eggs, bacon, grits, and coffee are perfectly wonderful; that red eye gravy is also a breakfast food; and that fried green tomatoes are not a breakfast food.
When you hear someone say, "Well, I caught myself lookin'," you know you are in the presence of a genuine Southerner!
Only true Southerners say "sweet tea" and "sweet milk." Sweet tea indicates the need for sugar and lots of it -- we do not like our tea unsweetened. "Sweet milk" means you don't want buttermilk.
And a true Southerner knows you don't scream obscenities at little old ladies who drive 30 MPH on the freeway. You just say,"Bless her heart" ... and go your own way.
To those of you who are still a little embarrassed by your Southerness:
Take two tent revivals and a dose of sausage gravy and call me in the morning. Bless your heart!And to those of you who are still having a hard time understanding all this Southern stuff, ... bless your hearts, I hear they are fixin' to have classes on Southernness as a second language!
And for those that are not from the South but have lived here for a long time, all y'all need a sign to hang on y'alls front porch that reads "I ain't from the South, but I got here as fast as I could."
Southern girls know men may come and go, but friends are fahevah!
Now...... Shugah, if you enjoyed this post, tell your friends about it, particularly if they were raised in The South - or wish they had been! If you're a Northern transplant, bless your little heart, fake it 'cause we know you got here as fast as you could - Oh Lawdee!!
For your edification, I included a link to those most Southern of all women - The Sweet Potato Queens!!!!!
Saturday, July 31, 2010
Sunday, July 11, 2010
Leviticus says what?
The dangers of quoting from the Bible Monday, June 28, 2010 at 2:29pm
In her radio show, Dr Laura Schlesinger said that, as an observant Orthodox Jew, homosexuality is an abomination according to Leviticus 18:22, and cannot be condoned under any circumstance. The following response is an open letter to Dr. Laura, penned by a US resident, which was posted on the Internet. It's funny, as well as informative:
Dear Dr. Laura: Thank you for doing so much to educate people regarding God's Law. I have learned a great deal from your show, and try to share that knowledge with as many people as I can. When someone tries to defend the homosexual lifestyle, for example, I simply remind them that Leviticus 18:22 clearly states it to be an abomination ... End of debate. I do need some advice from you, however, regarding some other elements of God's Laws and how to follow them.
1. Leviticus 25:44 states that I may possess slaves, both male and female, provided they are purchased from neighboring nations. A friend of mine claims that this applies to Mexicans, but not Canadians. Can you clarify? Why can't I own Canadians?
2. I would like to sell my daughter into slavery, as sanctioned in Exodus 21:7. In this day and age, what do you think would be a fair price for her?
3. I know that I am allowed no contact with a woman while she is in her period of Menstrual uncleanliness - Lev.15: 19-24. The problem is how do I tell? I have tried asking, but most women take offense.
4. When I burn a bull on the altar as a sacrifice, I know it creates a pleasing odor for the Lord - Lev.1:9. The problem is my neighbors. They claim the odor is not pleasing to them. Should I smite them?
5. I have a neighbor who insists on working on the Sabbath. Exodus 35:2 clearly states he should be put to death. Am I morally obligated to kill him myself, or should I ask the police to do it?
6. A friend of mine feels that even though eating shellfish is an abomination, Lev. 11:10, it is a lesser abomination than homosexuality. I don't agree. Can you settle this? Are there 'degrees' of abomination?
7. Lev. 21:20 states that I may not approach the altar of God if I have a defect in my sight. I have to admit that I wear reading glasses. Does my vision have to be 20/20, or is there some wiggle-room here?
8. Most of my male friends get their hair trimmed, including the hair around their temples, even though this is expressly forbidden by Lev. 19:27. How should they die?
9. I know from Lev. 11:6-8 that touching the skin of a dead pig makes me unclean, but may I still play football if I wear gloves?
10. My uncle has a farm. He violates Lev.19:19 by planting two different crops in the same field, as does his wife by wearing garments made of two different kinds of thread (cotton/polyester blend). He also tends to curse and blaspheme a lot. Is it really necessary that we go to all the trouble of getting the whole town together to stone them? Lev.24:10-16. Couldn't we just burn them to death at a private family affair, like we do with people who sleep with their in-laws? (Lev. 20:14)
I know you have studied these things extensively and thus enjoy considerable expertise in such matters, so I'm confident you can help. Thank you again for reminding us that God's word is eternal and unchanging.
Your adoring fan, James M. Kauffman, Ed.D. Professor Emeritus, Dept. Of Curriculum, Instruction, and Special Education University of Virginia
(It would be a damn shame if we couldn't own a Canadian :)
In her radio show, Dr Laura Schlesinger said that, as an observant Orthodox Jew, homosexuality is an abomination according to Leviticus 18:22, and cannot be condoned under any circumstance. The following response is an open letter to Dr. Laura, penned by a US resident, which was posted on the Internet. It's funny, as well as informative:
Dear Dr. Laura: Thank you for doing so much to educate people regarding God's Law. I have learned a great deal from your show, and try to share that knowledge with as many people as I can. When someone tries to defend the homosexual lifestyle, for example, I simply remind them that Leviticus 18:22 clearly states it to be an abomination ... End of debate. I do need some advice from you, however, regarding some other elements of God's Laws and how to follow them.
1. Leviticus 25:44 states that I may possess slaves, both male and female, provided they are purchased from neighboring nations. A friend of mine claims that this applies to Mexicans, but not Canadians. Can you clarify? Why can't I own Canadians?
2. I would like to sell my daughter into slavery, as sanctioned in Exodus 21:7. In this day and age, what do you think would be a fair price for her?
3. I know that I am allowed no contact with a woman while she is in her period of Menstrual uncleanliness - Lev.15: 19-24. The problem is how do I tell? I have tried asking, but most women take offense.
4. When I burn a bull on the altar as a sacrifice, I know it creates a pleasing odor for the Lord - Lev.1:9. The problem is my neighbors. They claim the odor is not pleasing to them. Should I smite them?
5. I have a neighbor who insists on working on the Sabbath. Exodus 35:2 clearly states he should be put to death. Am I morally obligated to kill him myself, or should I ask the police to do it?
6. A friend of mine feels that even though eating shellfish is an abomination, Lev. 11:10, it is a lesser abomination than homosexuality. I don't agree. Can you settle this? Are there 'degrees' of abomination?
7. Lev. 21:20 states that I may not approach the altar of God if I have a defect in my sight. I have to admit that I wear reading glasses. Does my vision have to be 20/20, or is there some wiggle-room here?
8. Most of my male friends get their hair trimmed, including the hair around their temples, even though this is expressly forbidden by Lev. 19:27. How should they die?
9. I know from Lev. 11:6-8 that touching the skin of a dead pig makes me unclean, but may I still play football if I wear gloves?
10. My uncle has a farm. He violates Lev.19:19 by planting two different crops in the same field, as does his wife by wearing garments made of two different kinds of thread (cotton/polyester blend). He also tends to curse and blaspheme a lot. Is it really necessary that we go to all the trouble of getting the whole town together to stone them? Lev.24:10-16. Couldn't we just burn them to death at a private family affair, like we do with people who sleep with their in-laws? (Lev. 20:14)
I know you have studied these things extensively and thus enjoy considerable expertise in such matters, so I'm confident you can help. Thank you again for reminding us that God's word is eternal and unchanging.
Your adoring fan, James M. Kauffman, Ed.D. Professor Emeritus, Dept. Of Curriculum, Instruction, and Special Education University of Virginia
(It would be a damn shame if we couldn't own a Canadian :)
Thursday, July 1, 2010
A Young Boy in the South
Note from the poster: For all men (or ladies, I guess!) who have an uncle or "truthful" father or older male relative who grew up in The South. I can see my Uncle We and my Grandad Dyess in this scenario...
Growing up in Mississippi - Life as a child...
Around age 10 my dad got me one of those little badass compound bow beginner kits. Of course, the first month I went around our land sticking arrows in anything that could get stuck by an arrow. Did you know that a 1955 40 horse Farmall tractor will take 6 rounds before it goes down?Tough sumbich.That got boring, so being the 10 yr. old Dukes of Hazard fan that I was, I quickly advanced to taking strips of cut up T-shirt doused in chainsaw gas tied around the end and was sending flaming arrows all over the place. Keep in mind this was 99.999% humidity swampland so there really wasn't any fire danger. I'll put it this way- a set of post hole diggers and a 3 ft.. hole and you had yourself a well.
One summer afternoon, I was shooting flaming arrows into a large rotten oak stump in our backyard. I looked over under the carport and see a shiny brand new can of starting fluid (ether). The light bulb went off.I grabbed the can and set it on the stump. I thought that it would probably just spray out in a disappointing manner...lets face it to a 10 yr old mouth-breather like myself, ether really doesn't "sound" flammable. So, I went back into the house and got a 1 pound can of pyrodex (black powder for muzzle loader rifles).At this point, I set the can of ether on the stump and opened up the can of black powder. My intentions were to sprinkle a little bit around the ether can but it all sorta dumped out on me. No biggie... 1 lb pyrodex and 16 oz ether should make a loud pop, kinda like a firecracker you know?You know what? Screw that I'm going back in the house for the other can. Yes, I got a second can of pyrodex and dumped it too. Now we're cookin'.
I stepped back about 15 ft and lit the 2 stroke arrow. I drew the nock to my cheek and took aim. As I released I heard a clunk as the arrow launched from my bow. In a slow motion time frame, I turned to see my dad getting out of the truck...OH SHIT! he just got home from work. So help me God it took 10 minutes for that arrow to go from my bow to the can. My dad was walking towards me in slow motion with a WTF look in his eyes. I turned back towards my target just in time to see the arrow pierce the starting fluid can right at the bottom. Right through the main pile of pyrodex and into the can.
Oh Shit!!
When the shock wave hit it knocked me off my feet. I don't know if it was the actual compression wave that threw me back or just reflex jerk back from 235 fricking decibels of sound. I caught a half a millisecond glimpse of the violence during the initial explosion and I will tell you there was dust, grass, and bugs all hovering 1 ft above the ground as far as I could see. It was like a little low to the ground layer of dust fog full of grasshoppers, spiders, and a crawfish or two.
The daylight turned purple.Let me repeat this...THE FRICKING DAYLIGHT TURNED PURPLE.There was a big sweetgum tree out by the gate going into the pasture.Notice I said "was". That son-of-a-bitch got up and ran off.
So here I am, on the ground blown completely out of my shoes with my thundercats T-Shirt shredded, my dad is on the other side of the carport having what I can only assume is a Vietnam flashback:ECHO BRAVO CHARLIE YOUR BRINGIN' EM IN TOO CLOSE!! CEASE FIRE. GODDAMNIT CEASE FIRE!!!!!His hat has blown off and is 30 ft behind him in the driveway. All windows on the north side of the house are blown out and there is a slow rolling mushroom cloud about 2000 ft over our backyard.
There is a Honda 185s 3 wheeler parked on the other side of the yard and the fenders are drooped down and are now touching the tires.
I wish I knew what I said to my dad at this moment. I don't know- I know I said something. I couldn't hear. I couldn't hear inside my own head. I don't think he heard me either... not that it would really matter. I don't remember much from this point on.
I said something, felt a sharp pain, and then woke up later. I felt a sharp pain, blacked out, woke later....repeat this process for an hour or so and you get the idea. I remember at one point my mom had to give me CPR so dad could beat me some more.Bring him back to life so dad can kill him again. Thanks Mom.
One thing is for sure... I never had to mow around that stump again, Mom had been bitching about that thing for years and dad never did anything about it. I stepped up to the plate and handled business.
Dad sold his muzzle loader a week or so later. And I still have some sort of bone growth abnormality either from the blast or the beating.Or both.
I guess what I'm trying to say is, get your kids into archery.It's good discipline and will teach them skills they can use later on in life.
Author Unknown
Growing up in Mississippi - Life as a child...
Around age 10 my dad got me one of those little badass compound bow beginner kits. Of course, the first month I went around our land sticking arrows in anything that could get stuck by an arrow. Did you know that a 1955 40 horse Farmall tractor will take 6 rounds before it goes down?Tough sumbich.That got boring, so being the 10 yr. old Dukes of Hazard fan that I was, I quickly advanced to taking strips of cut up T-shirt doused in chainsaw gas tied around the end and was sending flaming arrows all over the place. Keep in mind this was 99.999% humidity swampland so there really wasn't any fire danger. I'll put it this way- a set of post hole diggers and a 3 ft.. hole and you had yourself a well.
One summer afternoon, I was shooting flaming arrows into a large rotten oak stump in our backyard. I looked over under the carport and see a shiny brand new can of starting fluid (ether). The light bulb went off.I grabbed the can and set it on the stump. I thought that it would probably just spray out in a disappointing manner...lets face it to a 10 yr old mouth-breather like myself, ether really doesn't "sound" flammable. So, I went back into the house and got a 1 pound can of pyrodex (black powder for muzzle loader rifles).At this point, I set the can of ether on the stump and opened up the can of black powder. My intentions were to sprinkle a little bit around the ether can but it all sorta dumped out on me. No biggie... 1 lb pyrodex and 16 oz ether should make a loud pop, kinda like a firecracker you know?You know what? Screw that I'm going back in the house for the other can. Yes, I got a second can of pyrodex and dumped it too. Now we're cookin'.
I stepped back about 15 ft and lit the 2 stroke arrow. I drew the nock to my cheek and took aim. As I released I heard a clunk as the arrow launched from my bow. In a slow motion time frame, I turned to see my dad getting out of the truck...OH SHIT! he just got home from work. So help me God it took 10 minutes for that arrow to go from my bow to the can. My dad was walking towards me in slow motion with a WTF look in his eyes. I turned back towards my target just in time to see the arrow pierce the starting fluid can right at the bottom. Right through the main pile of pyrodex and into the can.
Oh Shit!!
When the shock wave hit it knocked me off my feet. I don't know if it was the actual compression wave that threw me back or just reflex jerk back from 235 fricking decibels of sound. I caught a half a millisecond glimpse of the violence during the initial explosion and I will tell you there was dust, grass, and bugs all hovering 1 ft above the ground as far as I could see. It was like a little low to the ground layer of dust fog full of grasshoppers, spiders, and a crawfish or two.
The daylight turned purple.Let me repeat this...THE FRICKING DAYLIGHT TURNED PURPLE.There was a big sweetgum tree out by the gate going into the pasture.Notice I said "was". That son-of-a-bitch got up and ran off.
So here I am, on the ground blown completely out of my shoes with my thundercats T-Shirt shredded, my dad is on the other side of the carport having what I can only assume is a Vietnam flashback:ECHO BRAVO CHARLIE YOUR BRINGIN' EM IN TOO CLOSE!! CEASE FIRE. GODDAMNIT CEASE FIRE!!!!!His hat has blown off and is 30 ft behind him in the driveway. All windows on the north side of the house are blown out and there is a slow rolling mushroom cloud about 2000 ft over our backyard.
There is a Honda 185s 3 wheeler parked on the other side of the yard and the fenders are drooped down and are now touching the tires.
I wish I knew what I said to my dad at this moment. I don't know- I know I said something. I couldn't hear. I couldn't hear inside my own head. I don't think he heard me either... not that it would really matter. I don't remember much from this point on.
I said something, felt a sharp pain, and then woke up later. I felt a sharp pain, blacked out, woke later....repeat this process for an hour or so and you get the idea. I remember at one point my mom had to give me CPR so dad could beat me some more.Bring him back to life so dad can kill him again. Thanks Mom.
One thing is for sure... I never had to mow around that stump again, Mom had been bitching about that thing for years and dad never did anything about it. I stepped up to the plate and handled business.
Dad sold his muzzle loader a week or so later. And I still have some sort of bone growth abnormality either from the blast or the beating.Or both.
I guess what I'm trying to say is, get your kids into archery.It's good discipline and will teach them skills they can use later on in life.
Author Unknown
Saturday, February 6, 2010
Rape Identity Protection - It Should Work Both Ways
I am not a criminal. I have never been charged with a crime. I fully support shielding of the identity of rape victims. The "public's right to know" is NOT sacrosanct. It applies to public meetings, the expenditure of public funds, government records and government in general, etc. I DOES NOT apply to private lives. I have no right to know anything about your life, if you are a private citizen. I too often hear fourth estate human megaphones spouting about "the public's right to know" when they should be shouting about "my right to produce scintillating garbage in order to sell more newspapers in order to generate more income for my employer".
Back to my original rant. Rape victims should not be identified. Neither should the ALLEGED attackers. I have no right to know that someone is ACCUSED of committing a crime. This benefits the public in no discernible way, shape or fashion.
I was motivated to blog about this topic because of a small blurb on page 2 of the sports section in this morning's newspaper. In three paragraphs, it detailed how a special prosecutor "has decided not to file charges against three...basketball players accused of rape, citing insufficient evidence". The article then proceeds to name "The players in question..." and "that DNA testing showed the three didn't commit the acts they were accused of (sic)".
OK. Now what? An accused rapist or rapists are still at large. The public in the area of the alleged rape is no better off than they were prior to the names of the three alleged attackers being released. Neither is the victim in a better position. The prosecutor has opened the door to reasonable doubt if the actual perpetrator(s) is/are apprehended. Seems as if the only ones in a position differing from the position they held prior to the arrest are the now-released defendants. And their position is in no way better than it was prior to the arrest.
My suggestion won't be adopted by the fourth estate since it would limit the titillating aspect of an article detailing the arrest of alleged perpetrators allegedly involved in an alleged sexual attack.
So...The victim is protected. This is a wonderful thing. The alleged perpetrators are identified and photographed for local and/or national news outlets. ALLEGED perpetrators. And, when the charges are dropped or they are found "not guilty", the news outlets release a minor "mea culpa". Just as you can't take back a hateful utterance, you can't "unaccuse" an innocent person.
Back to my original rant. Rape victims should not be identified. Neither should the ALLEGED attackers. I have no right to know that someone is ACCUSED of committing a crime. This benefits the public in no discernible way, shape or fashion.
I was motivated to blog about this topic because of a small blurb on page 2 of the sports section in this morning's newspaper. In three paragraphs, it detailed how a special prosecutor "has decided not to file charges against three...basketball players accused of rape, citing insufficient evidence". The article then proceeds to name "The players in question..." and "that DNA testing showed the three didn't commit the acts they were accused of (sic)".
OK. Now what? An accused rapist or rapists are still at large. The public in the area of the alleged rape is no better off than they were prior to the names of the three alleged attackers being released. Neither is the victim in a better position. The prosecutor has opened the door to reasonable doubt if the actual perpetrator(s) is/are apprehended. Seems as if the only ones in a position differing from the position they held prior to the arrest are the now-released defendants. And their position is in no way better than it was prior to the arrest.
My suggestion won't be adopted by the fourth estate since it would limit the titillating aspect of an article detailing the arrest of alleged perpetrators allegedly involved in an alleged sexual attack.
So...The victim is protected. This is a wonderful thing. The alleged perpetrators are identified and photographed for local and/or national news outlets. ALLEGED perpetrators. And, when the charges are dropped or they are found "not guilty", the news outlets release a minor "mea culpa". Just as you can't take back a hateful utterance, you can't "unaccuse" an innocent person.
Saturday, January 2, 2010
Who to believe - The James Gang or a Leach?
Mike Leach vs. Craig & Adam James. Texas Tech. Concussion. What is fact in this fiasco? As far as I can see, there is only one verifiable fact. Mike Leach was fired as the football coach at Texas Tech. Other than that; squadouche. The Family James says many things. Leach and members of his staff counter. There is probably some truth and some lies on both sides. I won't pass judgement...for several reasons. Most people don't care what I think. My judgement won't have any effect on the situation. Most important, I don't care who is telling the truth. It has no effect on my life or my family, so it does not matter to me. The resolution of the situation is not my reason for blogging this morning. I just don't care.
Why I am sitting down is because I have seen parents like the elder James and children like the younger James. I have dealt with them as a youth coach, volunteer high school coach, sports official and fellow parent. I have shook my head in wonder at the arrogance of some parents. I have marvelled at their stupidity. I have wondered if they could be so blind to the damage they were doing to their children.
I do not claim to have been a perfect father. I'm sure my sons could regale you with tales of my ineptness. I know they have cussed me under their breath. I accept this. It's part of being a father. My sons are all good athletes. They played, and I coached, youth baseball, soccer and basketball. They played on school sports teams and were very good at what they did. What I NEVER did was to lobby a coach for playing time for them. If they wanted more playing time, they had to follow my instructions. I explained that you earn playing time during practice much more than during the actual game. If you don't like your position in the pecking order, work harder. That will enable you to reach your maximum potential. This potential may not be a career in professional sports, but it will be YOUR level of ability.
I, like my sons, realized in my teens that I was not going to be a professional athlete, or even play D1 sports. Sports were enjoyment. Testing personal limits. The fact that we may not have been the best on the team did not matter because we gave it our all. I won't speak for them, but I think they enjoyed the sports experience. They still play various sports and derive the enjoyment from the experience. All are professionals in their fields of expertise. Sports provides a necessary distraction.
I remember one particular exchange with the mother of a Little James who was a member of the baseball team I coached. She constantly yelled at her son from the bleachers. At times, she countermanded what I and the other coaches had told the child. After what was probably a bad day at work, I had reached my breaking point. While the practice continued, I calmly (if you knew my temper during that period of my life, you would have applauded my restraint) walked over to the first base bleachers and told her that she needed to stop yelling at her son. That, once he crossed the chain link fence, we (the coaches) were in charge. I said all this in a voice that could not be heard by the ballplayers. They were on the third base side of the field with the other coaches. Some other parents in the bleachers could hear, but I didn't give a rat's ass. She told me that she was only helping him and that she would continue. I made her an offer. Become a coach. I told her that I would give her my coaches T-shirt and let her cross the fence and coach her heart out. She told me that she probably could do a better job. Again, I made the offer. I then hit her with the knockout punch. I told her that, as a coach, I was responsible for more than a dozen children, including her little one. I would love to trade places with her so that I could concentrate solely on MY son and not have to be worried with the other children and their parents. It was something I had never experienced at the youth level since I always coached my sons' teams. She huffed, climbed down from the bleachers and walked across to the park. I wish I could say that she toned down, but she did not. But several parents thanked me for calling her out. And her son? The kid was a wreck. Nervous. Jittery. Shy. Withdrawn. A really good kid who happened to have a she wolf for a mother.
One rule I always followed: never say anything disrespectful (and doesn't that sound better than "don't be disrespecting"?) about an adult in the presence of my sons. Children are impressionable. When you degrade an adult in their presence, you undermine all adults. And you give your child a false sense of superiority and power. Children don't need that much power because they don't know what to do with it. I believe that you should support your child, but you must recognize that they are not perfect. They will transgress. When they do, they must pay the price. As a parent, you can be supportive, but you can't be blind.
If mommy and daddy verbalize that Mr. Smith is a stupid teacher or coach, then Little James has carte blanche to neither listen to nor respect Mr. Smith. In fact, Mr. Smith may indeed BE a stupid teacher or coach, but the is not Little James' business. This discussion should take place between mommy and daddy and Little James should not be within earshot. It's a small step from Mr. Smith being stupid to ANY adult with whom Little James has a problem being stupid. And if mommy and daddy always coddle Little James and make excuses for him, he's going to grow up believing he is without fault. There will be no cause and effect in his life. His sense of superiority will mean that he does not have to exert himself to, in his mind, get the starting position or more playing time or make the all-star team. He will never be a team player. He will always forsake the success of the team in favor of his personal aggrandizement. And, when he fails, which all of us do from time to time, mommy and daddy have implanted a numbing and dangerous rationalization in his psyche. "It's not your fault."
Why I am sitting down is because I have seen parents like the elder James and children like the younger James. I have dealt with them as a youth coach, volunteer high school coach, sports official and fellow parent. I have shook my head in wonder at the arrogance of some parents. I have marvelled at their stupidity. I have wondered if they could be so blind to the damage they were doing to their children.
I do not claim to have been a perfect father. I'm sure my sons could regale you with tales of my ineptness. I know they have cussed me under their breath. I accept this. It's part of being a father. My sons are all good athletes. They played, and I coached, youth baseball, soccer and basketball. They played on school sports teams and were very good at what they did. What I NEVER did was to lobby a coach for playing time for them. If they wanted more playing time, they had to follow my instructions. I explained that you earn playing time during practice much more than during the actual game. If you don't like your position in the pecking order, work harder. That will enable you to reach your maximum potential. This potential may not be a career in professional sports, but it will be YOUR level of ability.
I, like my sons, realized in my teens that I was not going to be a professional athlete, or even play D1 sports. Sports were enjoyment. Testing personal limits. The fact that we may not have been the best on the team did not matter because we gave it our all. I won't speak for them, but I think they enjoyed the sports experience. They still play various sports and derive the enjoyment from the experience. All are professionals in their fields of expertise. Sports provides a necessary distraction.
I remember one particular exchange with the mother of a Little James who was a member of the baseball team I coached. She constantly yelled at her son from the bleachers. At times, she countermanded what I and the other coaches had told the child. After what was probably a bad day at work, I had reached my breaking point. While the practice continued, I calmly (if you knew my temper during that period of my life, you would have applauded my restraint) walked over to the first base bleachers and told her that she needed to stop yelling at her son. That, once he crossed the chain link fence, we (the coaches) were in charge. I said all this in a voice that could not be heard by the ballplayers. They were on the third base side of the field with the other coaches. Some other parents in the bleachers could hear, but I didn't give a rat's ass. She told me that she was only helping him and that she would continue. I made her an offer. Become a coach. I told her that I would give her my coaches T-shirt and let her cross the fence and coach her heart out. She told me that she probably could do a better job. Again, I made the offer. I then hit her with the knockout punch. I told her that, as a coach, I was responsible for more than a dozen children, including her little one. I would love to trade places with her so that I could concentrate solely on MY son and not have to be worried with the other children and their parents. It was something I had never experienced at the youth level since I always coached my sons' teams. She huffed, climbed down from the bleachers and walked across to the park. I wish I could say that she toned down, but she did not. But several parents thanked me for calling her out. And her son? The kid was a wreck. Nervous. Jittery. Shy. Withdrawn. A really good kid who happened to have a she wolf for a mother.
One rule I always followed: never say anything disrespectful (and doesn't that sound better than "don't be disrespecting"?) about an adult in the presence of my sons. Children are impressionable. When you degrade an adult in their presence, you undermine all adults. And you give your child a false sense of superiority and power. Children don't need that much power because they don't know what to do with it. I believe that you should support your child, but you must recognize that they are not perfect. They will transgress. When they do, they must pay the price. As a parent, you can be supportive, but you can't be blind.
If mommy and daddy verbalize that Mr. Smith is a stupid teacher or coach, then Little James has carte blanche to neither listen to nor respect Mr. Smith. In fact, Mr. Smith may indeed BE a stupid teacher or coach, but the is not Little James' business. This discussion should take place between mommy and daddy and Little James should not be within earshot. It's a small step from Mr. Smith being stupid to ANY adult with whom Little James has a problem being stupid. And if mommy and daddy always coddle Little James and make excuses for him, he's going to grow up believing he is without fault. There will be no cause and effect in his life. His sense of superiority will mean that he does not have to exert himself to, in his mind, get the starting position or more playing time or make the all-star team. He will never be a team player. He will always forsake the success of the team in favor of his personal aggrandizement. And, when he fails, which all of us do from time to time, mommy and daddy have implanted a numbing and dangerous rationalization in his psyche. "It's not your fault."
Thursday, November 12, 2009
Veterans Day - 2009
A memorable one. Too much cold beer and good companionship and too little time to thoroughly enjoy the day. Melford hit town and we spent the day at the fish farm. After another teardown of the beaver dam, we took a walk around the place. Peaceful. We fed the Dorito cat. She does not have a name, but she loves Black Pepperjack Doritos. Could not get enough of them. I think the cat has dain bramage!
Sitting and talking. Two aging vets reminiscing about the happy times. Mostly about the college days at Millsaps. Melford's a swabbie, but not too bad, as they go. We laughed throughout the day. Caught and grilled some catfish. Dorito cat was not interested. I guess she filled up on her namesake.
Let me assure any of our friends who might read this post - NOTHING negative was spoken about any of you. ALL of you were fondly remembered on Veterans Day 2009. And some of you are even veterans!
Floy, Cindy, Bread, Shellie, Darrelyn, Rusty, Martha, Jane, Diane, Kathy, Mary, Joe Pat, Cossack, Boo, Richie, Gorgo, Jack, Geno, Sabu, Dupee, Janice, The Archbishop, Skybird, multiple Johns, Stan the Man, Debbies, Marla, Mikes, Donna, Schulte, Rowan, Bobby, Patti, Tube Jockey, and many others. I could go on and on. It seemed like we laughed about all our friends and how much they meant to us.
Then we spent some time remembering the good things about those who are no longer with us: Brett, House Mouse (aka: The Poster Poster), Dwight, and Lance, and Dr. Priddy. And those with whom we have lost touch, and know not if they are still with us or gone: Ronnie, Bret, and Jersey come to mind.
After spending the day, and with night falling, I headed home. The guilt started. I had spent an entire day with a good friend, fellow thespian and former housemate. We laughed and talked and discussed and fondly remembered our Millsaps friends and lovers. Two veterans on Veterans Day. And we had not spent one moment remembering our service friends - those who are still with us and those who are not. I know he agrees with me...our service buddies won't mind. Not at all. This is how we chose to spend Veterans Day 2009.
As I lay in the bed. In the dark. No sounds except those wafting through my open windows. The sounds of night. A quiet night. Then I thought of those who are no longer with me. Larry and Niv and Paul and The Nose. I'm going to visit them at The Wall online in just a minute. I know they will heartily approve of how I spent Veterans Day 2009. I only with they could have been with the two of us...
Sitting and talking. Two aging vets reminiscing about the happy times. Mostly about the college days at Millsaps. Melford's a swabbie, but not too bad, as they go. We laughed throughout the day. Caught and grilled some catfish. Dorito cat was not interested. I guess she filled up on her namesake.
Let me assure any of our friends who might read this post - NOTHING negative was spoken about any of you. ALL of you were fondly remembered on Veterans Day 2009. And some of you are even veterans!
Floy, Cindy, Bread, Shellie, Darrelyn, Rusty, Martha, Jane, Diane, Kathy, Mary, Joe Pat, Cossack, Boo, Richie, Gorgo, Jack, Geno, Sabu, Dupee, Janice, The Archbishop, Skybird, multiple Johns, Stan the Man, Debbies, Marla, Mikes, Donna, Schulte, Rowan, Bobby, Patti, Tube Jockey, and many others. I could go on and on. It seemed like we laughed about all our friends and how much they meant to us.
Then we spent some time remembering the good things about those who are no longer with us: Brett, House Mouse (aka: The Poster Poster), Dwight, and Lance, and Dr. Priddy. And those with whom we have lost touch, and know not if they are still with us or gone: Ronnie, Bret, and Jersey come to mind.
After spending the day, and with night falling, I headed home. The guilt started. I had spent an entire day with a good friend, fellow thespian and former housemate. We laughed and talked and discussed and fondly remembered our Millsaps friends and lovers. Two veterans on Veterans Day. And we had not spent one moment remembering our service friends - those who are still with us and those who are not. I know he agrees with me...our service buddies won't mind. Not at all. This is how we chose to spend Veterans Day 2009.
As I lay in the bed. In the dark. No sounds except those wafting through my open windows. The sounds of night. A quiet night. Then I thought of those who are no longer with me. Larry and Niv and Paul and The Nose. I'm going to visit them at The Wall online in just a minute. I know they will heartily approve of how I spent Veterans Day 2009. I only with they could have been with the two of us...
Sunday, November 1, 2009
Not Just The Black, But ALL Women
Leonard Pitts, Jr. is a columnist whose ramblings appear on Sunday and Wednesday in the Miami Herald. He seems to carry a chip on his shoulder, but I still find some of his writings to be quite interesting...and thought provoking. This being the case, I'm sure he would be pleased.
Today's (11/1/09) entry concerned black women who whiten themselves up. If you click on the link above, you can read his entire column. I found it interesting, but I see the same instances of appearance-changing in all races. I do see his point about black women straightening or weaving their hair and how they, and others, spend $9 billion (yep! that's what Chris Rock says) yearly on stuff to affect the change. And how "black folks" own very little of the industry. Seems like a huge waste.
I am a fan of women. All women. I find them fascinating. They are much better than my sex. They have so much more to offer the world. I love most aspects of women. They are the nurturers. The givers. Most ask for so little in return. Many ask for nothing. But they also seem, and I know I should not deal with generalities, to be insecure. And none of them should be.
I was particularly moved by the end of Pitts' column. So much that I left a Sunday PM football game on TV to sit down and blog. As I said earlier, I find some of his writings very interesting. He is a gifted wordsmith. I close with the portion that caught my attention...and caused me to reread it three times. I can't think of anyone who has ever stated this truth more eloquently:
"I am your brother, your father, your husband and your son. I've seen you in church with big hats on, giving children the evil eye. And at the jail on visiting day, shoring up that wayward man. And at the bus stop in the rain on your way to work. And at the dining table with pen and paper, working miracles of money. When I was a baby, you nursed me, when we were children, I chased you through the house; when we were dating, I missed half the movie, stealing sugar from you. I saw you born; I took you to your prom; I glowed with pride when you went off to school. I have married you and buried you. I love your smile. A million times, you took my breath away.
You are the rock and salvation of our people, the faith that remains when all hope is gone. So if it's about the need to be beautiful, maybe it's time somebody told you:
You already are. You always were. "
Today's (11/1/09) entry concerned black women who whiten themselves up. If you click on the link above, you can read his entire column. I found it interesting, but I see the same instances of appearance-changing in all races. I do see his point about black women straightening or weaving their hair and how they, and others, spend $9 billion (yep! that's what Chris Rock says) yearly on stuff to affect the change. And how "black folks" own very little of the industry. Seems like a huge waste.
I am a fan of women. All women. I find them fascinating. They are much better than my sex. They have so much more to offer the world. I love most aspects of women. They are the nurturers. The givers. Most ask for so little in return. Many ask for nothing. But they also seem, and I know I should not deal with generalities, to be insecure. And none of them should be.
I was particularly moved by the end of Pitts' column. So much that I left a Sunday PM football game on TV to sit down and blog. As I said earlier, I find some of his writings very interesting. He is a gifted wordsmith. I close with the portion that caught my attention...and caused me to reread it three times. I can't think of anyone who has ever stated this truth more eloquently:
"I am your brother, your father, your husband and your son. I've seen you in church with big hats on, giving children the evil eye. And at the jail on visiting day, shoring up that wayward man. And at the bus stop in the rain on your way to work. And at the dining table with pen and paper, working miracles of money. When I was a baby, you nursed me, when we were children, I chased you through the house; when we were dating, I missed half the movie, stealing sugar from you. I saw you born; I took you to your prom; I glowed with pride when you went off to school. I have married you and buried you. I love your smile. A million times, you took my breath away.
You are the rock and salvation of our people, the faith that remains when all hope is gone. So if it's about the need to be beautiful, maybe it's time somebody told you:
You already are. You always were. "
Tuesday, September 1, 2009
Deaddy Teddy
My dislike for Teddy is previously documented on my blogsite. My opinion is that the world is a much better place now that he is not a part of it. I don't know the origin of the following email. In the spirit of fair play, I have linked the title to a snopes.com entry that covers the email facts. They are true, although some are inaccurate. Check out the link for the complete story.
1. He was caught cheating at Harvard when he attended it. He was expelled twice, once for cheating on a test, and once for paying a classmate to cheat for him.
2. While expelled, Kennedy enlisted in the Army, but mistakenly signed up for four years instead of two. Oops! The man can't count to four! His father, Joseph P. Kennedy, former U.S. Ambassador to England (a step up from bootlegging liquor into the US from Canada during prohibition), pulled the necessary strings to have his enlistment shortened to two years, and to ensure that he served in Europe, not Korea , where a war was raging. No preferential treatment for him! (like he charged that President Bush received).
3. Kennedy was assigned to Paris , never advanced beyond the rank of Private, and returned to Harvard upon being discharged.. Imagine a person of his "education" NEVER advancing past the rank of Private!
4. While attending law school at the University of Virginia , he was cited for reckless driving four times, including once when he was clocked driving 90 miles per hour in a residential neighborhood with his headlights off after dark. Yet his Virginia driver's license was never revoked. Coincidentally, he passed the bar exam in 1959. Amazing!
5.. In 1964, he was seriously injured in a plane crash, and hospitalized for several months. Test results done by the hospital at the time he was admitted had shown he was legally intoxicated. The results of those tests remained a "state secret" until in the 1980's when the report was unsealed. Didn't hear about that from the unbiased media, did we?
6. On July 19, 1969, Kennedy attended a party on Chappaquiddick Island in Massachusetts . At about 11:00 PM, he borrowed his chauffeur's keys to his Oldsmobile limousine, and offered to give a ride home to Mary Jo Kopechne, a campaign worker. Leaving the island via an unlit bridge with no guard rail, Kennedy steered the car off the bridge, flipped, and into Poucha Pond.
7. He swam to shore and walked back to the party, passing several houses and a fire station. Two friends then returned with him to the scene of the accident. According to their later testimony, they told him what he already knew - that he was required by law to immediately report the accident to the authorities. Instead Kennedy made his way to his hotel, called his lawyer, and went to sleep. Kennedy called the police the next morning and by then the wreck had already been discovered. Before dying, Kopechne had scratched at the upholstered floor above her head in the upside-down car.
The Kennedy family began "calling in favors", ensuring that any inquiry would be contained. Her corpse was whisked out-of-state to her family, before an autopsy could be conducted. Further details are uncertain, but after the accident Kennedy says he repeatedly dove under the water trying to rescue Kopechne and he didn't call police because he was in a state of shock. It is widely assumed Kennedy was drunk, and he held off calling police in hopes that his family could fix the problem overnight. Since the accident, Kennedy's "political enemies" have referred to him as the distinguished Senator from Chappaquiddick. He pled guilty to leaving the scene of an accident, and was given a SUSPENDED SENTENCE OF TWO MONTHS. Kopechne's family received a small payout from the Kennedy's insurance policy, and never sued. There was later an effort to have her body exhumed and autopsied, but her family successfully fought against this in court, and Kennedy's family paid their attorney's bills... a "token of friendship"?
8. Kennedy has held his Senate seat for more than forty years, but considering his longevity, his accomplishments seem scant. He authored or argued for legislation that ensured a variety of civil rights, increased the minimum wage in 1981, made access to health care easier for the indigent, and funded Meals on Wheels for fixed-income seniors and is widely held as the "standard-bearer for liberalism". In his very first Senate roll, he was the floor manager for the bill that turned U.S. immigration policy upside down and opened the floodgate for immigrants from third world countries.
9. Since that time, he has been the prime instigator and author of every expansion of an increase in immigration, up to and including the latest attempt to grant amnesty to illegal aliens. Not to mention the pious grilling he gave the last two Supreme Court nominees, as if he was the standard bearer for the nation in matters of "what's right". What a pompous ass!
10. He is known around Washington as a public drunk, loud, boisterous and very disrespectful to ladies. JERK is a better description than "great American". "A blonde in every pond" is his motto.
How about an 11? Covering for his nephew during the investigation of a 1991 rape. What a role model, huh?
"Palm Beach police asserted that Kennedy had obstructed justice by misleading police early in their investigation. When police arrived to investigate, they were told Kennedy and Smith had already left the area. Later investigation of travel records indicated Kennedy probably was still in the mansion at the time." http://www.answers.com/topic/edward-m-ted-kennedy
1. He was caught cheating at Harvard when he attended it. He was expelled twice, once for cheating on a test, and once for paying a classmate to cheat for him.
2. While expelled, Kennedy enlisted in the Army, but mistakenly signed up for four years instead of two. Oops! The man can't count to four! His father, Joseph P. Kennedy, former U.S. Ambassador to England (a step up from bootlegging liquor into the US from Canada during prohibition), pulled the necessary strings to have his enlistment shortened to two years, and to ensure that he served in Europe, not Korea , where a war was raging. No preferential treatment for him! (like he charged that President Bush received).
3. Kennedy was assigned to Paris , never advanced beyond the rank of Private, and returned to Harvard upon being discharged.. Imagine a person of his "education" NEVER advancing past the rank of Private!
4. While attending law school at the University of Virginia , he was cited for reckless driving four times, including once when he was clocked driving 90 miles per hour in a residential neighborhood with his headlights off after dark. Yet his Virginia driver's license was never revoked. Coincidentally, he passed the bar exam in 1959. Amazing!
5.. In 1964, he was seriously injured in a plane crash, and hospitalized for several months. Test results done by the hospital at the time he was admitted had shown he was legally intoxicated. The results of those tests remained a "state secret" until in the 1980's when the report was unsealed. Didn't hear about that from the unbiased media, did we?
6. On July 19, 1969, Kennedy attended a party on Chappaquiddick Island in Massachusetts . At about 11:00 PM, he borrowed his chauffeur's keys to his Oldsmobile limousine, and offered to give a ride home to Mary Jo Kopechne, a campaign worker. Leaving the island via an unlit bridge with no guard rail, Kennedy steered the car off the bridge, flipped, and into Poucha Pond.
7. He swam to shore and walked back to the party, passing several houses and a fire station. Two friends then returned with him to the scene of the accident. According to their later testimony, they told him what he already knew - that he was required by law to immediately report the accident to the authorities. Instead Kennedy made his way to his hotel, called his lawyer, and went to sleep. Kennedy called the police the next morning and by then the wreck had already been discovered. Before dying, Kopechne had scratched at the upholstered floor above her head in the upside-down car.
The Kennedy family began "calling in favors", ensuring that any inquiry would be contained. Her corpse was whisked out-of-state to her family, before an autopsy could be conducted. Further details are uncertain, but after the accident Kennedy says he repeatedly dove under the water trying to rescue Kopechne and he didn't call police because he was in a state of shock. It is widely assumed Kennedy was drunk, and he held off calling police in hopes that his family could fix the problem overnight. Since the accident, Kennedy's "political enemies" have referred to him as the distinguished Senator from Chappaquiddick. He pled guilty to leaving the scene of an accident, and was given a SUSPENDED SENTENCE OF TWO MONTHS. Kopechne's family received a small payout from the Kennedy's insurance policy, and never sued. There was later an effort to have her body exhumed and autopsied, but her family successfully fought against this in court, and Kennedy's family paid their attorney's bills... a "token of friendship"?
8. Kennedy has held his Senate seat for more than forty years, but considering his longevity, his accomplishments seem scant. He authored or argued for legislation that ensured a variety of civil rights, increased the minimum wage in 1981, made access to health care easier for the indigent, and funded Meals on Wheels for fixed-income seniors and is widely held as the "standard-bearer for liberalism". In his very first Senate roll, he was the floor manager for the bill that turned U.S. immigration policy upside down and opened the floodgate for immigrants from third world countries.
9. Since that time, he has been the prime instigator and author of every expansion of an increase in immigration, up to and including the latest attempt to grant amnesty to illegal aliens. Not to mention the pious grilling he gave the last two Supreme Court nominees, as if he was the standard bearer for the nation in matters of "what's right". What a pompous ass!
10. He is known around Washington as a public drunk, loud, boisterous and very disrespectful to ladies. JERK is a better description than "great American". "A blonde in every pond" is his motto.
How about an 11? Covering for his nephew during the investigation of a 1991 rape. What a role model, huh?
"Palm Beach police asserted that Kennedy had obstructed justice by misleading police early in their investigation. When police arrived to investigate, they were told Kennedy and Smith had already left the area. Later investigation of travel records indicated Kennedy probably was still in the mansion at the time." http://www.answers.com/topic/edward-m-ted-kennedy
Sunday, August 16, 2009
Woodstock and the hippie nation
I am a hippie. I don't apologize for that fact. Today is my 61st birthday. Forty years ago, I had the chance to be at Max Yazgur's farm in upstate NY. David Nonnemaker, one of my roommates at the house on North West St., had heard about the concert and wanted me to go with him. We would hitchhike. It had been a little more than a month since we had returned from the Atlanta Pops festival. I had two jobs and, much to my chagrin, decided not to go. The trip would have probably taken four or five days each way, depending on how long it took us to catch rides. I would have been gone for two weeks or more. I needed money. In retrospect, it was a good decision. Atlanta was much closer and the Pops Festival had been over the July 4th holiday.
I wish I had been there to witness and partake in the happening. People were there from Thursday through Monday. No fights. People sharing everything they had with total strangers. The citizens of Bethel feeding the concert attendees and telling the national news outlets how well-behaved the hippies were throughout the weekend. This is the "hippiedom" to which I ascribe. Not the crap that emanated from San Francisco during the "Summer of Love". Those 10,000 were mostly Manson (Charlie not Marilyn). They were street people, much as you would find in any large city today. Unwashed. Thieving. Belligerent. Confrontational. NOT hippies. They were more like a mob of freeloaders who converged on the Haight-Ashbury neighborhood and became freeloaders.
A true hippie is one who practices ideals. Look for the best in everyone. Help those in need. Make love; not war. It's not about a style of dress, although I still love the tie-died T-shirts, no underwear, no socks, shorts and my long hair. Buffett and his parrotheads are hippies. You don't have to be poor. You don't have to give away all your possessions or wealth. You do need to take a shower at least once a day! And don't be a poseur. Like Abbie Hoffman. The way Pete Townshend bitch-slapped Hoffman around on the stage at Woodstock is a thing of beauty. I just wish someone had film. And, in that vein: Does anyone even remember John Sinclair? Not many folks. But most remember Pete threatening Abbie Hoffman (and EVERYONE at the festival) with a sound thrashing if they interrupted The Who again. Still hilarious stuff.
Hippies are misunderstood. Those who flaunt their hippiness are similar to flaming queen gays. One of the tenets of being a hippie is doing good deeds without any fanfare or expectation of any reward. We work every day. We pay our taxes and raise our children. Many of us are conservative. Some even go to church. We laugh at the derisive attitude that many people take of us. We were the campus rebels who sat in with our friends from Jackson State on the day after the Gibbs and Green shootings. We were peaceful. But we were upset and angry. Only ten days prior to these shootings, the Kent State massacre took place. Yes, we were naive. We wanted to change the world. Our black friends at Millsaps were headed to Lynch St. to meet with their friends. Some of us were asked to accompany them because they felt that some white kids in the mix might cause the Jackson police and Mississippi National Guard to act in a restrained manner. Some of us were Lynch St. regulars because of the Paradise Club and Percy, the proprietor. We used to go there on Sundays because you could sit and watch a football game and drink beer. You could not do that in the white neighborhoods. Our sit-in had no purpose other than to show the world that we cared. We were still pretty raw from Kent State. To this day, I am still terribly bothered by Kent State.
We protested the war. But, when it was our time to go, most of us went. I did. I was married, a father, and a college graduate. But I served my time honorably. We were also more rounded than our parents. I was an athlete and a thespian and a hippie. I saw no contradiction. I still don't. I'm still a hippie and I will be until I die. I am an organ donor. I was a bone marrow donor volunteer until age 55, when I was drummed out of the program due to my age. I gave blood. Upon my death, I have donated my body to UMC. I pay my bills. I am fiscally conservative. I don't believe in Iraq and Afghanistan, just like I did not believe in Vietnam. But I support every one of our troops with no hesitation. We need to keep our money at home and let these religious factions fight it out with each other, just as they have been doing for a few thousand years. I don't believe in god or religion, but I'm not bothered by those who promulgate on TV and radio.
I am terrified by Obama and Pelosi and what they can do to our country. But I support human rights. I don't care if some guy wants to parade around town with a blow-up alligator impaled on his tallywacker. He's not hurting me. I don't like radicals of any style. I quit watching and listening to idiots like Limbaugh and Olbermann and O'Reilly and Coulter. They raise my blood pressure.
I fish and hunt, but wish Vick had been put in a ring with a dozen of his own pit bulls, after he had been drenched in fresh blood. I play golf but don't like watching it on TV because it's so boring to watch. I can't stand opera, but I love most types of rock, soul and reggae. I raise some of my own vegetables, but am not adverse to consuming something that is not "free-range" or "all natural" or "heart healthy". I don't believe in global warming...or Al Gore!
In summation, being a hippie is a good thing. It's a lifestyle that can't be defined, but you know it when you meet one of us. And, chances are, you won't know it when you DO meet one of us. That's the way we like it.
I wish I had been there to witness and partake in the happening. People were there from Thursday through Monday. No fights. People sharing everything they had with total strangers. The citizens of Bethel feeding the concert attendees and telling the national news outlets how well-behaved the hippies were throughout the weekend. This is the "hippiedom" to which I ascribe. Not the crap that emanated from San Francisco during the "Summer of Love". Those 10,000 were mostly Manson (Charlie not Marilyn). They were street people, much as you would find in any large city today. Unwashed. Thieving. Belligerent. Confrontational. NOT hippies. They were more like a mob of freeloaders who converged on the Haight-Ashbury neighborhood and became freeloaders.
A true hippie is one who practices ideals. Look for the best in everyone. Help those in need. Make love; not war. It's not about a style of dress, although I still love the tie-died T-shirts, no underwear, no socks, shorts and my long hair. Buffett and his parrotheads are hippies. You don't have to be poor. You don't have to give away all your possessions or wealth. You do need to take a shower at least once a day! And don't be a poseur. Like Abbie Hoffman. The way Pete Townshend bitch-slapped Hoffman around on the stage at Woodstock is a thing of beauty. I just wish someone had film. And, in that vein: Does anyone even remember John Sinclair? Not many folks. But most remember Pete threatening Abbie Hoffman (and EVERYONE at the festival) with a sound thrashing if they interrupted The Who again. Still hilarious stuff.
Hippies are misunderstood. Those who flaunt their hippiness are similar to flaming queen gays. One of the tenets of being a hippie is doing good deeds without any fanfare or expectation of any reward. We work every day. We pay our taxes and raise our children. Many of us are conservative. Some even go to church. We laugh at the derisive attitude that many people take of us. We were the campus rebels who sat in with our friends from Jackson State on the day after the Gibbs and Green shootings. We were peaceful. But we were upset and angry. Only ten days prior to these shootings, the Kent State massacre took place. Yes, we were naive. We wanted to change the world. Our black friends at Millsaps were headed to Lynch St. to meet with their friends. Some of us were asked to accompany them because they felt that some white kids in the mix might cause the Jackson police and Mississippi National Guard to act in a restrained manner. Some of us were Lynch St. regulars because of the Paradise Club and Percy, the proprietor. We used to go there on Sundays because you could sit and watch a football game and drink beer. You could not do that in the white neighborhoods. Our sit-in had no purpose other than to show the world that we cared. We were still pretty raw from Kent State. To this day, I am still terribly bothered by Kent State.
We protested the war. But, when it was our time to go, most of us went. I did. I was married, a father, and a college graduate. But I served my time honorably. We were also more rounded than our parents. I was an athlete and a thespian and a hippie. I saw no contradiction. I still don't. I'm still a hippie and I will be until I die. I am an organ donor. I was a bone marrow donor volunteer until age 55, when I was drummed out of the program due to my age. I gave blood. Upon my death, I have donated my body to UMC. I pay my bills. I am fiscally conservative. I don't believe in Iraq and Afghanistan, just like I did not believe in Vietnam. But I support every one of our troops with no hesitation. We need to keep our money at home and let these religious factions fight it out with each other, just as they have been doing for a few thousand years. I don't believe in god or religion, but I'm not bothered by those who promulgate on TV and radio.
I am terrified by Obama and Pelosi and what they can do to our country. But I support human rights. I don't care if some guy wants to parade around town with a blow-up alligator impaled on his tallywacker. He's not hurting me. I don't like radicals of any style. I quit watching and listening to idiots like Limbaugh and Olbermann and O'Reilly and Coulter. They raise my blood pressure.
I fish and hunt, but wish Vick had been put in a ring with a dozen of his own pit bulls, after he had been drenched in fresh blood. I play golf but don't like watching it on TV because it's so boring to watch. I can't stand opera, but I love most types of rock, soul and reggae. I raise some of my own vegetables, but am not adverse to consuming something that is not "free-range" or "all natural" or "heart healthy". I don't believe in global warming...or Al Gore!
In summation, being a hippie is a good thing. It's a lifestyle that can't be defined, but you know it when you meet one of us. And, chances are, you won't know it when you DO meet one of us. That's the way we like it.
Friday, July 3, 2009
My Personal Litmus Test
The title link takes you to a You Tube video capturing one of the most powerful lines in John Grisham's "A Time To Kill". Jake Brigance's closing argument. It ends with: "Can you see her? Her raped, beaten, broken body, soaked in their urine, soaked in their semen, soaked in her blood -- left to die. Can you see her? I want you to picture that little girl. Now imagine she's white." Powerful. Compelling. A major eye-opener. It will bring tears to the eyes of grown men. It sent shivers up my spine when I read it. I stopped reading and gasped. Then I reread the line. DAMN! All I could think about was - what if someone did this to one of my children? Then I delved deeper into what I thought Grisham meant.
There are certain watermarks in the life of every person. I remember the approximate time of day and in which chair I was sitting when I read the line. It haunted me for days. Then I began to explore it. That's when I discovered I could use the line as a litmus test for fairness and equity. Grisham totally reversed the mood in the courtroom. He altered perception and reality for all who heard Jake Brigance speak the words. "Now imagine she's white." Polar opposites. Black and White. Suddenly everyone was given a new perspective from which to view the facts. I like that. That is powerful. It's also defusing. It seems to return the Ph to neutral. It makes one do a 180. OK. Ah, yes. Now, I see.
I recently used it in the context of the Justice Department Civil Rights Divison's investigation of Ike Brown and his ne'er-do-wells in Noxubee county. If this had been, as I admit it has been in the past, Caucasians disenfranchising blacks, Uncle would have stepped in and conducted a thorough investigation. OK. This one passes the litmus test. What's good for one group is good for the other.
Would Sonia Sotomayor's "Latina woman" remark, if uttered by a white or black judge to espouse some intangible insight inherent in a specific racial group, have caused an immediate loss of presidential support? Duh? Of course!
What is the purpose of the organization RBI (Reviving Baseball in Inner Cities) is a program designed to encourage minority children to play baseball. It is sponsored by Major League Baseball. OK. MLB is currently approximately 60% White, 29% Hispanic, 8% Black, and 3% Asian . The U.S. Census Bureau estimates that 2008 numbers show the population is: 80% White, 15.1% Hispanic, 12.8% Black and 4.4% Asian. Seems like we might have to start RBS (Reviving Baseball in the Suburbs) or RBC (Reviving Baseball in Chinatown) too. And maybe the NBA, MLS and NFL need to step up. Way too many blacks and too few whites, Hispanics and Asians. Is RBI another Jackson/Sharpton blackmail (no pun intended) job? (And, by the way, the Duke lacrosse team is still waiting for your apology.)
I'm proud of my litmus test. You can use it in various ways. When you hear or read something that makes you think, just replace certain key words with polar opposites and see if you still feel as you initially felt. Try it.
There are certain watermarks in the life of every person. I remember the approximate time of day and in which chair I was sitting when I read the line. It haunted me for days. Then I began to explore it. That's when I discovered I could use the line as a litmus test for fairness and equity. Grisham totally reversed the mood in the courtroom. He altered perception and reality for all who heard Jake Brigance speak the words. "Now imagine she's white." Polar opposites. Black and White. Suddenly everyone was given a new perspective from which to view the facts. I like that. That is powerful. It's also defusing. It seems to return the Ph to neutral. It makes one do a 180. OK. Ah, yes. Now, I see.
I recently used it in the context of the Justice Department Civil Rights Divison's investigation of Ike Brown and his ne'er-do-wells in Noxubee county. If this had been, as I admit it has been in the past, Caucasians disenfranchising blacks, Uncle would have stepped in and conducted a thorough investigation. OK. This one passes the litmus test. What's good for one group is good for the other.
Would Sonia Sotomayor's "Latina woman" remark, if uttered by a white or black judge to espouse some intangible insight inherent in a specific racial group, have caused an immediate loss of presidential support? Duh? Of course!
What is the purpose of the organization RBI (Reviving Baseball in Inner Cities) is a program designed to encourage minority children to play baseball. It is sponsored by Major League Baseball. OK. MLB is currently approximately 60% White, 29% Hispanic, 8% Black, and 3% Asian . The U.S. Census Bureau estimates that 2008 numbers show the population is: 80% White, 15.1% Hispanic, 12.8% Black and 4.4% Asian. Seems like we might have to start RBS (Reviving Baseball in the Suburbs) or RBC (Reviving Baseball in Chinatown) too. And maybe the NBA, MLS and NFL need to step up. Way too many blacks and too few whites, Hispanics and Asians. Is RBI another Jackson/Sharpton blackmail (no pun intended) job? (And, by the way, the Duke lacrosse team is still waiting for your apology.)
I'm proud of my litmus test. You can use it in various ways. When you hear or read something that makes you think, just replace certain key words with polar opposites and see if you still feel as you initially felt. Try it.
Sunday, June 28, 2009
Some Deaths Aren't Worth Mourning
As if the news about an HBO special on Terrible Teddy was not enough to ruin a good year, now I have to endure all this gushing and crying because a damned pedophile has died. People??? What the hell are you thinking? The real world will miss Jerko about as much as it misses Ted Bundy or any number of Catholic priests. The guy was a race and gender confused pedophile. What's to miss? I believe that all energy was created at the time of the "Big Bang" and, according to the first law of thermodynamics, energy cannot be created or destroyed. But, energy can change form. Therefore, I can hope that whatever reincarnation of Jerko occurs, it is an infinite improvement on the original. Hell, it HAS to be an improvement!!
This waste of chromosomal comingling spent the majority of his life living as he desired, thumbing his oh so pretty nose at the law and morals and never facing the dire consequences of his actions that would have landed a common "person" (I was unsure if the use of the word "man" was appropriate in this context) in jail. He was able to buy his way out of trouble time and time again. Hum...sound a lot like Terrible Teddy and the rest of his clan.
Jacko-ff's death made the front page of the Jackson Clarion Ledger. The deaths of Farrah Fawcett and Ed McMahon were relegated to second citizen status in the same newspaper. As far as I can remember, neither of these people had ever been accused of doing anything to hurt an innocent child. Leading a good life must be its own reward.
If you have not done so, read my earlier post on Terrible Teddy. I include references to bolster my position that this man has spent his life doing harm to the innocents and that he should die a painful death. Had he ever, EVER expressed any remorse for his cowardly behavior, I might be inclined to cut him some slack. But, he's a Kennedy; they don't apologize. And now Hollywierd is going to pay tribute to him. I'll be Whoopi and Basinger and The Brothers Baldwin and Cage, etc. will all be there to kiss his massive ass, either figuratively or literally. The Wicked Witch of the West (West? Like Hollywierd?) was right - "What a world; what a world." In retrospect, maybe part of that speech is what Jacko-ff uttered as his life flashed before his pointy nose - "I'm melting!"
This waste of chromosomal comingling spent the majority of his life living as he desired, thumbing his oh so pretty nose at the law and morals and never facing the dire consequences of his actions that would have landed a common "person" (I was unsure if the use of the word "man" was appropriate in this context) in jail. He was able to buy his way out of trouble time and time again. Hum...sound a lot like Terrible Teddy and the rest of his clan.
Jacko-ff's death made the front page of the Jackson Clarion Ledger. The deaths of Farrah Fawcett and Ed McMahon were relegated to second citizen status in the same newspaper. As far as I can remember, neither of these people had ever been accused of doing anything to hurt an innocent child. Leading a good life must be its own reward.
If you have not done so, read my earlier post on Terrible Teddy. I include references to bolster my position that this man has spent his life doing harm to the innocents and that he should die a painful death. Had he ever, EVER expressed any remorse for his cowardly behavior, I might be inclined to cut him some slack. But, he's a Kennedy; they don't apologize. And now Hollywierd is going to pay tribute to him. I'll be Whoopi and Basinger and The Brothers Baldwin and Cage, etc. will all be there to kiss his massive ass, either figuratively or literally. The Wicked Witch of the West (West? Like Hollywierd?) was right - "What a world; what a world." In retrospect, maybe part of that speech is what Jacko-ff uttered as his life flashed before his pointy nose - "I'm melting!"
Saturday, May 23, 2009
My ADD in action
Sometimes, I just have to laugh at myself. At other times, I talk to myself, but that's another subject. The following episode happened a short while ago.
First, let me apologize to my sons if I have passed down any of my ADD characteristics to them. I don't think so because all three of them seem to be stable, level-headed, clear-thinking men. Me, on the other hand...
It all started with a trip to the kitchen to get a piece of gum. Simple enough endeavor, you assume. That's how it usually starts. Innocently. Anyway, while perusing the flavors of gum available to me, I noticed a "rug stopper" on the kitchen island. A "rug stopper" is one of those tacky (sticky - not ugly tacky) that you put under a throw rug to keep them from sliding around. I remembered that I needed to install the rug stopper. I forget about the gum.
I go back to the living room and lift one corner of the rug. I notice dust and dirt under it. I go to the staircase leading down to my shop/garage/laundry room and get my broom and dustpan.
I sweep from under the rug. I notice that the kitchen and breakfast area both could use a sweeping, so I sweep them, too.
When dumping my dustpan into the trash, I notice an empty box of Ritz crackers. That reminds me to add Ritz to the grocery list.
Adding Ritz to the list reminds me that I need to stir the grilled chicken pasta salad that I had made earlier today. (When I eat the salad, I plan to eat some Ritz with it. So there is SOME order to my madness.) I take the pasta salad from the fridge and stir it. I turn around and try to remember what I was doing before stirring the pasta salad. Oh, yes. The rug stopper.
But, wait a minute. The floors look nice and clean; don't they? I figure that, as long as the floors are freshly swept, I may as wall Swiffer mop them. Back to the staircase to get my Swiffer mop.
I keep a pair of flip-flops by the staircase. I use them if I'm going outside for a minute. I notice that I have tracked in some dirt on them so I get the broom again and sweep the threshold. I figure as long as I'm sweeping the threshold, why not sweep the entire stairway leading down to the garage/laundry room/shop. So I do.
Now I stop for a second to assess my situation. Why am I sweeping the stairwell? Oh, yeah! I need to install the rug stopper. Back to the living room.
I move a recliner to free the other corner of the rug. There is dirt under the recliner. Back to the broom and dustpan. I then figure I may as well sweep under the other recliner, too. I do so.
Now I install the rug stopper, reposition the rug and recliners and walk to the kitchen, being careful not to step on the freshly-mopped floor, I walk on the runners down the hallway.
Then, the absurdity of it all hits me. I laugh and ask myself what the hell I was thinking? I have jumped from one task to another to another, all while watching and listening to an SEC baseball tournament game on the TV, and I still don't have a piece of gum. Since the floor was still wet, I decided to send this email to my family and friends. Maybe they understand why I'm like I am!!
First, let me apologize to my sons if I have passed down any of my ADD characteristics to them. I don't think so because all three of them seem to be stable, level-headed, clear-thinking men. Me, on the other hand...
It all started with a trip to the kitchen to get a piece of gum. Simple enough endeavor, you assume. That's how it usually starts. Innocently. Anyway, while perusing the flavors of gum available to me, I noticed a "rug stopper" on the kitchen island. A "rug stopper" is one of those tacky (sticky - not ugly tacky) that you put under a throw rug to keep them from sliding around. I remembered that I needed to install the rug stopper. I forget about the gum.
I go back to the living room and lift one corner of the rug. I notice dust and dirt under it. I go to the staircase leading down to my shop/garage/laundry room and get my broom and dustpan.
I sweep from under the rug. I notice that the kitchen and breakfast area both could use a sweeping, so I sweep them, too.
When dumping my dustpan into the trash, I notice an empty box of Ritz crackers. That reminds me to add Ritz to the grocery list.
Adding Ritz to the list reminds me that I need to stir the grilled chicken pasta salad that I had made earlier today. (When I eat the salad, I plan to eat some Ritz with it. So there is SOME order to my madness.) I take the pasta salad from the fridge and stir it. I turn around and try to remember what I was doing before stirring the pasta salad. Oh, yes. The rug stopper.
But, wait a minute. The floors look nice and clean; don't they? I figure that, as long as the floors are freshly swept, I may as wall Swiffer mop them. Back to the staircase to get my Swiffer mop.
I keep a pair of flip-flops by the staircase. I use them if I'm going outside for a minute. I notice that I have tracked in some dirt on them so I get the broom again and sweep the threshold. I figure as long as I'm sweeping the threshold, why not sweep the entire stairway leading down to the garage/laundry room/shop. So I do.
Now I stop for a second to assess my situation. Why am I sweeping the stairwell? Oh, yeah! I need to install the rug stopper. Back to the living room.
I move a recliner to free the other corner of the rug. There is dirt under the recliner. Back to the broom and dustpan. I then figure I may as well sweep under the other recliner, too. I do so.
Now I install the rug stopper, reposition the rug and recliners and walk to the kitchen, being careful not to step on the freshly-mopped floor, I walk on the runners down the hallway.
Then, the absurdity of it all hits me. I laugh and ask myself what the hell I was thinking? I have jumped from one task to another to another, all while watching and listening to an SEC baseball tournament game on the TV, and I still don't have a piece of gum. Since the floor was still wet, I decided to send this email to my family and friends. Maybe they understand why I'm like I am!!
Friday, April 10, 2009
Just some general "stuff"
Yesterday I watched a Tom Brokaw documentary on The History Channel titled "1968". It got me thinking. I was born at a really good time in history. I listen to the lyrics to Jackson Browne's "Running on Empty" and see that we are the same age. One (is that all??) major difference is that he shared the sack with Daryl Hannah. Lucky S.O.B.
Back to the initial thought. In 12/68, Apollo 8 became the first spacecraft to take humans to the moon and safely back to earth. Jim Lovell, Frank Borman and William Anders took the Christmas trip. Now get this. (I get chills just thinking of the magnitued of the event.) They were the first humans to ever see the earth "rise". As they circled the moon, the earth rose on the moon's horizon. Billions of people have lived and died during the history of the earth and they were to first three to see this event. The following summer (7/20/69), I watched TV as Neil Armstrong and Buzz Aldren from Apollo 11 walked on the moon. Less than a month later, I blew off a trip to upstate New York with a friend from New Jersy. It would have taken us three days to drive that far. Atlanta only took about 10 hours and we had been there over the 7/4 holiday to catch the Atlanta Pops Festival. Some really good photo coverage of the bands (including a very young Led Zeppelin!) and the 200,000 folks who attended. Too soon to hit the road again. Life is full of missed opportunities...
Wuzzup with some of these Hollywood "actors"? The clown from CSI Miami, David Caruso, leaves Hill St. Blues to pursue feature films. Yeah. Hey, Davey! How did that work out? Now his ass surfaces on TV with his faggy little sunglass drop and head tilt ad nauseum!! If this guy is an actor, I'm Barack's first cousin! He is one of the few people who can make me skip watching a TV show because he screws up everything on the show - with his mere presence!! Unfortunately, CSI Miami is not enough of an ensemble show to make up for his presence.
And what about Ice-T or Ice Cube or Black Ice or whatever the guy's name is that plays a Polynesian detective on Law & Order SVU? (At least L&O IS an ensemble show so he appears much less than little Davey.) This guy could be reading the Starkville phone book or reciting lines from King Lear or ordering ham hocks and turnip greens at the KKK Kafe and the delivery would be THE SAME!! He thinks he's some kind of a cross between Huey P. Newton and Farrakahn and that people actually buy into that "all black guys are real bad-asses" crap!! You could shoot this guy in the 'nads with a nail gun and the response would be the same as if he were delivering a line to Capt. Kragen!! And while we're on the subject of stereotypes, any male who has ever played sports and showered with his teammates can tell you that there is another myth about black men that is total crap! Oh, yeah...some white people CAN dance!!
Now let's talk about Ghost Hunters. Whether generic or "International". Have these hunters actually ever, EVER found anything? What a bunch of Geraldoesque losers!
While we're on the subject of TV, what kind of people actually watch and enjoy a bunch of fat people stabbing each other in the back and crying while they make excuse after excuse? Yes, I did some research. I watched it for about ten minutes once. That was enough for me!
Well...I feel better; how about you?
Back to the initial thought. In 12/68, Apollo 8 became the first spacecraft to take humans to the moon and safely back to earth. Jim Lovell, Frank Borman and William Anders took the Christmas trip. Now get this. (I get chills just thinking of the magnitued of the event.) They were the first humans to ever see the earth "rise". As they circled the moon, the earth rose on the moon's horizon. Billions of people have lived and died during the history of the earth and they were to first three to see this event. The following summer (7/20/69), I watched TV as Neil Armstrong and Buzz Aldren from Apollo 11 walked on the moon. Less than a month later, I blew off a trip to upstate New York with a friend from New Jersy. It would have taken us three days to drive that far. Atlanta only took about 10 hours and we had been there over the 7/4 holiday to catch the Atlanta Pops Festival. Some really good photo coverage of the bands (including a very young Led Zeppelin!) and the 200,000 folks who attended. Too soon to hit the road again. Life is full of missed opportunities...
Wuzzup with some of these Hollywood "actors"? The clown from CSI Miami, David Caruso, leaves Hill St. Blues to pursue feature films. Yeah. Hey, Davey! How did that work out? Now his ass surfaces on TV with his faggy little sunglass drop and head tilt ad nauseum!! If this guy is an actor, I'm Barack's first cousin! He is one of the few people who can make me skip watching a TV show because he screws up everything on the show - with his mere presence!! Unfortunately, CSI Miami is not enough of an ensemble show to make up for his presence.
And what about Ice-T or Ice Cube or Black Ice or whatever the guy's name is that plays a Polynesian detective on Law & Order SVU? (At least L&O IS an ensemble show so he appears much less than little Davey.) This guy could be reading the Starkville phone book or reciting lines from King Lear or ordering ham hocks and turnip greens at the KKK Kafe and the delivery would be THE SAME!! He thinks he's some kind of a cross between Huey P. Newton and Farrakahn and that people actually buy into that "all black guys are real bad-asses" crap!! You could shoot this guy in the 'nads with a nail gun and the response would be the same as if he were delivering a line to Capt. Kragen!! And while we're on the subject of stereotypes, any male who has ever played sports and showered with his teammates can tell you that there is another myth about black men that is total crap! Oh, yeah...some white people CAN dance!!
Now let's talk about Ghost Hunters. Whether generic or "International". Have these hunters actually ever, EVER found anything? What a bunch of Geraldoesque losers!
While we're on the subject of TV, what kind of people actually watch and enjoy a bunch of fat people stabbing each other in the back and crying while they make excuse after excuse? Yes, I did some research. I watched it for about ten minutes once. That was enough for me!
Well...I feel better; how about you?
Saturday, March 7, 2009
Taking Chance
"I didn’t know Chance Phelps before he died,” Strobl wrote, according to the news release. “But today, I miss him.”
The final line from an excellent movie. I just watched it this morning. Found it on HBO by accident. Started watching it and could not stop. If you have ever lost a relative, friend, classmate or fellow soldier, it will tear you apart. But it is worth the mental trauma.
Based on real-life events, Lt. Col. Michael Strobl (Kevin Bacon), a volunteer military escort officer, accompanies the body of 19-year-old Marine Chance Phelps back to his hometown of Dubois, Wyoming. Karma created the detail. Strobl thought that Chance was from HIS hometown in Colorado, but that was just where he enlisted. The technical details are interesting. The film shows the handling of the deceased remains from the time he fell until his final internment. The actions of those who Strobl met along the way and when he arrived in Dubois are what make the movie. Americans showing honor to a 19-year-old kid that they never met. Treating him like the hero that he was.
I spent a lot of time thinking of The Nose and Niv and Greenie and Tuna and all the others that I knew and with whom I served that also did not make it back. This blog entry is purely cathartic. In retrospect, I guess they all are, but this one more so. I needed to get this out of my mind. Maybe the blogging will help.
During the Vietnam era, soldiers were not held in such high esteem. Those who had to use civilian airports were called "baby killers" and had blood thrown on them. Even in military towns, it was not a good idea to wear any part of your uniform off base. We were unpopular because the war was unpopular. We were serving because it was our duty. We didn't want to be there. This was prior to the "all-volunteer" service.
I think the treatment of the Vietman-era soldiers is a direct cause of the patriotism shown today's Iraq/Afghanistan veterans. We know what it was like to be lepers; we don't want today's soldiers to suffer the same stigma. We're proud of them and we want them to know it. This one-minute commercial (with no dialogue) says it all.
I can't find the genesis of the saying so I'm entering it without credit: "Old men start wars. Young men fight them. Wise men avoid them." Having served, I am very much anti-war. Hell, I was anti-war before I got drafted and the entire time I served. But, I did serve. Not like the chicken shit Cassius Clay (His Momma named him Cassius Clay! If it be's good enough for his Momma; it be's good enough for me.!) who used some bullshit religious objection stay out of the service and still earn his living. And, now the gutless piece of shit is some kind of American hero! Bullshit on chicken shit!!
Sorry. I digressed. I am totally against all war, unless it involves someone invading our shores. That is NOT to say that I don't support our troops. I do. They are giving up everything to fight in a useless, no-win war. A year after we leave Iraq (if that long) the country will be back to it's civil war state with each of the three sects fighting against each other. We would have accomplished squadoosh! Good men and women would have died. Unnecessarily.
The final line from an excellent movie. I just watched it this morning. Found it on HBO by accident. Started watching it and could not stop. If you have ever lost a relative, friend, classmate or fellow soldier, it will tear you apart. But it is worth the mental trauma.
Based on real-life events, Lt. Col. Michael Strobl (Kevin Bacon), a volunteer military escort officer, accompanies the body of 19-year-old Marine Chance Phelps back to his hometown of Dubois, Wyoming. Karma created the detail. Strobl thought that Chance was from HIS hometown in Colorado, but that was just where he enlisted. The technical details are interesting. The film shows the handling of the deceased remains from the time he fell until his final internment. The actions of those who Strobl met along the way and when he arrived in Dubois are what make the movie. Americans showing honor to a 19-year-old kid that they never met. Treating him like the hero that he was.
I spent a lot of time thinking of The Nose and Niv and Greenie and Tuna and all the others that I knew and with whom I served that also did not make it back. This blog entry is purely cathartic. In retrospect, I guess they all are, but this one more so. I needed to get this out of my mind. Maybe the blogging will help.
During the Vietnam era, soldiers were not held in such high esteem. Those who had to use civilian airports were called "baby killers" and had blood thrown on them. Even in military towns, it was not a good idea to wear any part of your uniform off base. We were unpopular because the war was unpopular. We were serving because it was our duty. We didn't want to be there. This was prior to the "all-volunteer" service.
I think the treatment of the Vietman-era soldiers is a direct cause of the patriotism shown today's Iraq/Afghanistan veterans. We know what it was like to be lepers; we don't want today's soldiers to suffer the same stigma. We're proud of them and we want them to know it. This one-minute commercial (with no dialogue) says it all.
I can't find the genesis of the saying so I'm entering it without credit: "Old men start wars. Young men fight them. Wise men avoid them." Having served, I am very much anti-war. Hell, I was anti-war before I got drafted and the entire time I served. But, I did serve. Not like the chicken shit Cassius Clay (His Momma named him Cassius Clay! If it be's good enough for his Momma; it be's good enough for me.!) who used some bullshit religious objection stay out of the service and still earn his living. And, now the gutless piece of shit is some kind of American hero! Bullshit on chicken shit!!
Sorry. I digressed. I am totally against all war, unless it involves someone invading our shores. That is NOT to say that I don't support our troops. I do. They are giving up everything to fight in a useless, no-win war. A year after we leave Iraq (if that long) the country will be back to it's civil war state with each of the three sects fighting against each other. We would have accomplished squadoosh! Good men and women would have died. Unnecessarily.
Sunday, February 22, 2009
The Rapist and The Death Grip
Click on the tirle to get some audio. I love it!
This is an account of a 1993 incident during which 81 year-old (the article says she was "middle aged"!)
Curtescine Lloyd of Edwards, Ms handled an attempted rape in a rather unusual fashion. You Go, Girl!!
This account was transcribled from radio station KGO, Newstalk radio 810. Enjoy...and laugh your ass off as you picture Granny Curtescine in action!!!
"Poetic Justice (Granny Gets Her Gun)Curtescine Lloyd? You never heard of her? Well, she is my choice as one of the most amazing and heroic women of our times.
Ms. Lloyd is a middle-aged nurse who lives with an elderly aunt in the rural hamlet of Edwards, Miss., near Jackson. This is her story, most of it taken from a court transcript.
One night, Ms. Lloyd was awakened by a sound. She thought it was h er aunt going to the bathroom.Suddenly a man stepped into her bedroom. Terrified, she sat up. He shoved her back down and said: "You better not turn on a light. You holler, you're dead. You better not even breathe loud.
"He declared his intentions. which were to rob her and commit sexual assault. Of course, he phrased it far more luridly.Then he took off most of his clothing and jumped into her bed.
Here is what happened next. according to court records:Ms. Lloyd: "I got it. I grabbed it by my right hand. And when I grabbed it, I gave it a yank. And when I yanked it, I twisted all at the same time."(Need I explain what Ms. Lloyd meant by "it"? I think not.)"He hit me with his right hand a hard blow to the head, and when he hit me, I grabbed hold of his scrotum with my left hand and twisted the opposite way. He started to yell and we fell to the floor and he hit me a couple of more licks, but they were light licks. He was weakening already.
"With Ms. Lloyd still hanging on with both hands, squeezing and twisting, they somehow struggled into the hallway."He was trying to get out, and I'm hanging onto him, and he was throwing me from one side of the hall to the other. I was afraid if I let go, he was going to kill me."So I was determined I was not going to turn loose. So we were going down the hallway failing from one side to the other, and we got into the living room and we both fell. He brought me down right in front of the couch and he leaned back against the couch, with me."He says. 'You 've got me, you've got me, please, you've got me.' I said. 'I know damn well I got you.' He said: 'Please, please, you re killing me. you're killing me. I can't do nothing. Call the police, call the police.'"I said. 'Do you think I'm stupid enough I'd turn you loose and call the police?' He said, 'Well, what am I gonna do" I said, 'You're gonna get the hell out of my house.' He said: 'How can I get out of your house if you won't let me go?' How can I get out?'"I said: 'Break out. Son of a bitch. You broke in didn't you? And I was still holding him."He said, 'Oh. you've got me suffering, lady, you've got me suffering.' I said, 'Have you thought about how you were going to have me suffering?' He said, 'Well, I can't do nothing now.' I said, 'Good.'
"Ms. Lloyd, still twisting and squeezing, dragged the lout to the front door, which had two locks, and told him to unbolt them.It was a difficult process because he kept collapsing to the floor and she kept hauling him back to his feet."When he finally unlocked the door, he screamed, 'I'm out, I'm out.'" But Ms. Lloyd, now confident that she had a full grasp of the situation. said: "No. I'm taking you to the end of the porch. And when I turn you loose. I'm going to get my gun and I'm going to blow your (obscenity) brains out, you nasty, stinking, low-down dirty piece of (obscenity)."And when I did that, I gave a twist, and I turned him loose. He fell off the steps, jumped up, and limped around the back of my aunt's car and started down the hill."And I ran into my aunt's room, got her pistol from the nightstand, ran back to the porch and I fired two shots down the hill the way I saw him go. Then I ran back in he house and dialed 911.
"The police came and examined the man's clothing. Inside the trousers was written the name Dwight Coverson. They found Coverson, 29, at home, in considerable pain and wondering if he could ever be a daddy.A one-day jury trial was held. As Coverson's court-appointed lawyer put it, "The jury was out 10 minutes."And the judge gave him 25 years in prison.The defense lawyer also said that Ms. Lloyd was recently on a local Mississippi TV news show and mentioned that she had been contacted about a possible movie of her story.That is a film I would pay to see."
This is an account of a 1993 incident during which 81 year-old (the article says she was "middle aged"!)
Curtescine Lloyd of Edwards, Ms handled an attempted rape in a rather unusual fashion. You Go, Girl!!
This account was transcribled from radio station KGO, Newstalk radio 810. Enjoy...and laugh your ass off as you picture Granny Curtescine in action!!!
"Poetic Justice (Granny Gets Her Gun)Curtescine Lloyd? You never heard of her? Well, she is my choice as one of the most amazing and heroic women of our times.
Ms. Lloyd is a middle-aged nurse who lives with an elderly aunt in the rural hamlet of Edwards, Miss., near Jackson. This is her story, most of it taken from a court transcript.
One night, Ms. Lloyd was awakened by a sound. She thought it was h er aunt going to the bathroom.Suddenly a man stepped into her bedroom. Terrified, she sat up. He shoved her back down and said: "You better not turn on a light. You holler, you're dead. You better not even breathe loud.
"He declared his intentions. which were to rob her and commit sexual assault. Of course, he phrased it far more luridly.Then he took off most of his clothing and jumped into her bed.
Here is what happened next. according to court records:Ms. Lloyd: "I got it. I grabbed it by my right hand. And when I grabbed it, I gave it a yank. And when I yanked it, I twisted all at the same time."(Need I explain what Ms. Lloyd meant by "it"? I think not.)"He hit me with his right hand a hard blow to the head, and when he hit me, I grabbed hold of his scrotum with my left hand and twisted the opposite way. He started to yell and we fell to the floor and he hit me a couple of more licks, but they were light licks. He was weakening already.
"With Ms. Lloyd still hanging on with both hands, squeezing and twisting, they somehow struggled into the hallway."He was trying to get out, and I'm hanging onto him, and he was throwing me from one side of the hall to the other. I was afraid if I let go, he was going to kill me."So I was determined I was not going to turn loose. So we were going down the hallway failing from one side to the other, and we got into the living room and we both fell. He brought me down right in front of the couch and he leaned back against the couch, with me."He says. 'You 've got me, you've got me, please, you've got me.' I said. 'I know damn well I got you.' He said: 'Please, please, you re killing me. you're killing me. I can't do nothing. Call the police, call the police.'"I said. 'Do you think I'm stupid enough I'd turn you loose and call the police?' He said, 'Well, what am I gonna do" I said, 'You're gonna get the hell out of my house.' He said: 'How can I get out of your house if you won't let me go?' How can I get out?'"I said: 'Break out. Son of a bitch. You broke in didn't you? And I was still holding him."He said, 'Oh. you've got me suffering, lady, you've got me suffering.' I said, 'Have you thought about how you were going to have me suffering?' He said, 'Well, I can't do nothing now.' I said, 'Good.'
"Ms. Lloyd, still twisting and squeezing, dragged the lout to the front door, which had two locks, and told him to unbolt them.It was a difficult process because he kept collapsing to the floor and she kept hauling him back to his feet."When he finally unlocked the door, he screamed, 'I'm out, I'm out.'" But Ms. Lloyd, now confident that she had a full grasp of the situation. said: "No. I'm taking you to the end of the porch. And when I turn you loose. I'm going to get my gun and I'm going to blow your (obscenity) brains out, you nasty, stinking, low-down dirty piece of (obscenity)."And when I did that, I gave a twist, and I turned him loose. He fell off the steps, jumped up, and limped around the back of my aunt's car and started down the hill."And I ran into my aunt's room, got her pistol from the nightstand, ran back to the porch and I fired two shots down the hill the way I saw him go. Then I ran back in he house and dialed 911.
"The police came and examined the man's clothing. Inside the trousers was written the name Dwight Coverson. They found Coverson, 29, at home, in considerable pain and wondering if he could ever be a daddy.A one-day jury trial was held. As Coverson's court-appointed lawyer put it, "The jury was out 10 minutes."And the judge gave him 25 years in prison.The defense lawyer also said that Ms. Lloyd was recently on a local Mississippi TV news show and mentioned that she had been contacted about a possible movie of her story.That is a film I would pay to see."
Saturday, January 31, 2009
White Guilt
My fictional nemesis, The Right Rev. Dr. Louis Jesse Sharpton, has profited mightily from this concept. First, let's establish a definition for the term.
According to Shelby Steele, white guilt is "a form of self-congratulation, where whites initiate "compassionate policies" toward people of color, to showcase their innocence to racism.[3] Steele has put the term in the context of American history and society in his book White Guilt: How Blacks and Whites Together Destroyed the Promise of the Civil Rights Era (2006):
"Whites (and American institutions) must acknowledge historical racism to show themselves redeemed by it, but once they acknowledge it, they lose moral authority over everything having to do with race, equality, social justice, poverty and so on. [...] The authority they lose transfers to the 'victims' of historical racism and becomes their great power in society. This is why white guilt is quite literally the same thing as black power."[4] (My italics)
Look again at the portion of the quote that I italicized and boldened. Read it again. Now you understand why The Right Rev. Dr. Louis Jesse Sharpton loves the concept! Get some white people to feel guilty and you serve two purposes: You diminish their moral authority and you increase your own power. WOW!
I may have strayed somewhat from my intent but I wanted to highlight certain parts of the term. I also wanted for guilty white folks to take a logical look at the term. Now, let's get back to my original intent.
In my blog on Reverse Discrimination I touched on sin eating. The same philosophy applies to White Guilt. You, me, him, her, them, anyone. NOONE is responsible for the actions of the ancestors. Again...NOONE! Each of us is responsible only for our own actions. If you want to be involved with a certain group, organization, club or substrata of the population, that is your perogative. Because of an illness experienced by one of my sons, I am involved with the Lukemia and Lymphoma Society. I am also a sponsor of nature and animals. I support these causes freely and willingly. My support is in no way related to guilt. I have not harmed nature or any animals; at least not knowingly. I have no guilt in these areas. I support these causes because I want to do so - and for no other reason.
Stop taking any action based on some ill-conceived, illogical, feel-good, phychobabble, liberal emotion that has no basis in fact. Take responsibility for your own transgressions and misdeeds. The responsibility for those of your ancestors ended when they drew their last breath.
[3]. ^ Will, George F.. "White Guilt, Deciphered", MSNBC, June 5, 2006. Retrieved on 2007-09-30">
[4]. ^ [1] Google books exerpt from Steele, Shelby, White Guilt: How Blacks and Whites Together Destroyed the Promise of the Civil Rights Era Chapter 4: Certain Knowledge, p 24, HarperCollins: 2006, accessed September 30, 2007
According to Shelby Steele, white guilt is "a form of self-congratulation, where whites initiate "compassionate policies" toward people of color, to showcase their innocence to racism.[3] Steele has put the term in the context of American history and society in his book White Guilt: How Blacks and Whites Together Destroyed the Promise of the Civil Rights Era (2006):
"Whites (and American institutions) must acknowledge historical racism to show themselves redeemed by it, but once they acknowledge it, they lose moral authority over everything having to do with race, equality, social justice, poverty and so on. [...] The authority they lose transfers to the 'victims' of historical racism and becomes their great power in society. This is why white guilt is quite literally the same thing as black power."[4] (My italics)
Look again at the portion of the quote that I italicized and boldened. Read it again. Now you understand why The Right Rev. Dr. Louis Jesse Sharpton loves the concept! Get some white people to feel guilty and you serve two purposes: You diminish their moral authority and you increase your own power. WOW!
I may have strayed somewhat from my intent but I wanted to highlight certain parts of the term. I also wanted for guilty white folks to take a logical look at the term. Now, let's get back to my original intent.
In my blog on Reverse Discrimination I touched on sin eating. The same philosophy applies to White Guilt. You, me, him, her, them, anyone. NOONE is responsible for the actions of the ancestors. Again...NOONE! Each of us is responsible only for our own actions. If you want to be involved with a certain group, organization, club or substrata of the population, that is your perogative. Because of an illness experienced by one of my sons, I am involved with the Lukemia and Lymphoma Society. I am also a sponsor of nature and animals. I support these causes freely and willingly. My support is in no way related to guilt. I have not harmed nature or any animals; at least not knowingly. I have no guilt in these areas. I support these causes because I want to do so - and for no other reason.
Stop taking any action based on some ill-conceived, illogical, feel-good, phychobabble, liberal emotion that has no basis in fact. Take responsibility for your own transgressions and misdeeds. The responsibility for those of your ancestors ended when they drew their last breath.
[3]. ^ Will, George F.. "White Guilt, Deciphered", MSNBC, June 5, 2006. Retrieved on 2007-09-30">
[4]. ^ [1] Google books exerpt from Steele, Shelby, White Guilt: How Blacks and Whites Together Destroyed the Promise of the Civil Rights Era Chapter 4: Certain Knowledge, p 24, HarperCollins: 2006, accessed September 30, 2007
African American?
Not being someone of olive, brown or black skin, I have never had occasion to call myself "African American". However, if we believe anthropologists, ALL people on The Big Blue Marble are of African descent. That would make anyone born in a country located on either the North or South American continents an "African American". So all you Mexicans, Canucks, Peruvians and Aleuts need to take a second look at your ethnicity. Yeah. I know what you're saying. I say "let them eat cake". That's not my modest proposal.
Manny Otiko, a gentleman born in Africa, penned an interesting article "African American or Black American - Which Term Is Accurate?" It is worth reading no matter your views on the subject.
My contention is that this divisive term is totally inaccurate. The fact that we ALL are, in some way, African Americans, is a given. When I hear some race-baiter spout vitriol under the guise of a perceived offense, frequently infusing the diatribe with "African American" references, a smile comes to my face. I then try to discern whether their views are based on ignorance or innocence. If you look at the term "African American" and, in a scholarly and objective way, dissect it, you arrive at a totally different meaning than the generally accepted one. Let's discuss it. The definitions used in the discussion were obtained from The Free Dictionary.
"African": (1) A native or inhabitant of Africa or (2) A person of African descent. Hum? OK.
"American": (1) Of or relating to the United States of America or its people, language, or culture.
(2) Of or relating to North or South America, the West Indies, or the Western Hemisphere.
(3) Of or relating to any of the Native American peoples. Interesting.
OK. Based on the first definition of "American" I might be willing to let my friends who were not born in the US off the hook. But the second and third definitions only muddle the discussion. Now "Native Americans" must be added to the picture. (The fact that they are called "Native Americans" is no longer a given. Recent anthropological discoveries seem to prove that the first Americans may have come from Scandinavia rather than Siberia or the Orient.)
Another variable to discuss. Technically, a native of The Republic of South Africa is an African. They are as white as white can be. They may have practiced or been a proponent of the practice of "apartheid". They may have participated in the active discrimination of "black" peoples in the RSA. Some were responsible for burning homes, churches, schools. Some practiced torture. By the actual definition of the terms used, they are "African American".
Don't fall victim to the racial rants of those like Rev. Dr. Louis Jesse Sharpton. Just because someone says something ad nauseum, does not make it so.
Manny Otiko, a gentleman born in Africa, penned an interesting article "African American or Black American - Which Term Is Accurate?" It is worth reading no matter your views on the subject.
My contention is that this divisive term is totally inaccurate. The fact that we ALL are, in some way, African Americans, is a given. When I hear some race-baiter spout vitriol under the guise of a perceived offense, frequently infusing the diatribe with "African American" references, a smile comes to my face. I then try to discern whether their views are based on ignorance or innocence. If you look at the term "African American" and, in a scholarly and objective way, dissect it, you arrive at a totally different meaning than the generally accepted one. Let's discuss it. The definitions used in the discussion were obtained from The Free Dictionary.
"African": (1) A native or inhabitant of Africa or (2) A person of African descent. Hum? OK.
"American": (1) Of or relating to the United States of America or its people, language, or culture.
(2) Of or relating to North or South America, the West Indies, or the Western Hemisphere.
(3) Of or relating to any of the Native American peoples. Interesting.
OK. Based on the first definition of "American" I might be willing to let my friends who were not born in the US off the hook. But the second and third definitions only muddle the discussion. Now "Native Americans" must be added to the picture. (The fact that they are called "Native Americans" is no longer a given. Recent anthropological discoveries seem to prove that the first Americans may have come from Scandinavia rather than Siberia or the Orient.)
Another variable to discuss. Technically, a native of The Republic of South Africa is an African. They are as white as white can be. They may have practiced or been a proponent of the practice of "apartheid". They may have participated in the active discrimination of "black" peoples in the RSA. Some were responsible for burning homes, churches, schools. Some practiced torture. By the actual definition of the terms used, they are "African American".
Don't fall victim to the racial rants of those like Rev. Dr. Louis Jesse Sharpton. Just because someone says something ad nauseum, does not make it so.
Monday, January 26, 2009
What are GRITS?
What Are Grits? Nobody knows. Some folks believe grits are grown on bushes and are harvested by midgets by shaking the bushes after spreading sheets around them. Many people feel that grits are made from ground up bits of white corn. These are obviously lies spread by Communists and terrorists. Nothing as good as a Grits can be made from corn. The most recent research suggests that the mysterious Manna that God rained down upon the Israelites during their time in the Sinai Desert was most likely Grits. Critics disagree, stating that there is no record of biscuits, butter, salt, and red eye gravy raining down from the sky, and that God would not punish his people by forcing them to eat Grits without these key ingredients.
How Grits are Formed: Grits are formed deep underground under intense heat and pressure. It takes over 1000 years to form a single Grit. Most of the world's grit mines are in South Carolina, and are guarded day and night by armed guards and pit bull dogs. Harvesting the Grit is a dangerous occupation, and many Grit miners lose their lives each year so that Grits can continue to be served morning after morning for breakfast (not that having Grits for lunch and dinner is out of the question). Yankees have attempted to create a synthetic Grits. They call them Cream of Wheat. As far as we can tell the key ingredients of Cream of Wheat are Elmer's Glue and shredded Styrofoam. These synthetic grits have also been shown to cause nausea, and may leave you unable to have children.
Historical Grits: As we mentioned earlier, the first known mention of the Grits was by the Ancient Israelites in the Sinai Desert. After that, the Grits was not heard from for another 1000 years. Experts feel that the Grits was used during this time only during secret religious ceremonies, and was kept from the public due to it's rarity. The next mention of the Grits was found amidst the ruins of the ancient city of Pompeii in a woman's personal diary. The woman's name was Herculaneum Jemimaneus (Aunt Jamima to her friends.)
The 10 Commandments of Grits:
I. Thou shalt not put syrup on thy Grits
II. Thou shalt not eat thy Grits with a spoon or knife
III. Thou shalt not eat Cream of Wheat and call it Grits, for this is blasphemy
IV. Thou shalt not covet thy neighbors Grits
V. Thou shalt use only Salt, Butter, and red eye gravy as toppings for thy Grits
VI Thou shalt not eat Instant Grits
VII. Thou shalt not put ketchup on thy Grits
VIII. Thou shalt not put margarine on thy Grits.
IX. Thou shalt not eat toast with thy Grits, only biscuits made from scratch .
X. Thou shalt eat grits on the Sabbath for this is manna from heaven.
How to Cook Grits: For one serving of Grits: Boil 1.5 cups of water with salt and a little butter. Add 5 TBsp of Grits. Reduce to a simmer and allow the Grits to soak up all the water. When a pencil stuck into the grits stands alone, it is done. That's all there is to cooking grits.
How to make red eye gravy :Fry salt cured country ham in cast iron pan. Remove the ham when done and add coffee to the gravy and simmer for several minutes. Great on grits and biscuits.
How to Eat Grits :Immediately after removing your grits from the stove top, add a generous portion of butter or red eye gravy. (WARNING: Do NOT use low-fat butter.) The butter should cause t he Grits to turn a wondrous shade of yellow. (Hold a banana or a yellow rain slicker next to your Grits; if the colors match, you have the correct amount of butter.) In lieu of butter, pour a generous helping of red eye gravy on your grits. Be sure to pour enough to have some left for sopping up with your biscuits. Never, ever substitute canned or store bought biscuits for the real thing bec ause they can cause cancer, rotten teeth and impotence.Next, add salt. (NOTICE: The correct ration of Grit to Salt is 10:1 Therefore for every 10 grits, you should have 1 grain of salt.) Now begin eating your grits. Always use a fork, never a spoon, to eat Grits. Your grits should be thick enough so they do not run through the tines of the fork. The correct beverage to serve with Grits is black coffee. DO NOT use cream or, heaven forbid, Skim Milk.) Your grits should never be eaten in a bowl because Yankees will think it's Cream of Wheat.
Ways to Eat Leftover Grits: (Leftover grits are extremely rare) Spread them in the bottom of a casserole dish, Cover and place them in the refrigerator overnight. The Grits will congeal into a gelatinous mass. Next morning, slice the Grits into squares and fry them in 1/2' of cooking oil and butter until they turn a golden brown. Many people are tempted to pour syrup onto Grits served this way. This is, of course, totally unacceptable.
SOUTHERN BLESSING BEFORE EATING GRITS
May the lord bless these grits,
May no Yankee ever get the recipe,
May I eat grits every day while living,
And may I die while eating grits.
AMEN
How Grits are Formed: Grits are formed deep underground under intense heat and pressure. It takes over 1000 years to form a single Grit. Most of the world's grit mines are in South Carolina, and are guarded day and night by armed guards and pit bull dogs. Harvesting the Grit is a dangerous occupation, and many Grit miners lose their lives each year so that Grits can continue to be served morning after morning for breakfast (not that having Grits for lunch and dinner is out of the question). Yankees have attempted to create a synthetic Grits. They call them Cream of Wheat. As far as we can tell the key ingredients of Cream of Wheat are Elmer's Glue and shredded Styrofoam. These synthetic grits have also been shown to cause nausea, and may leave you unable to have children.
Historical Grits: As we mentioned earlier, the first known mention of the Grits was by the Ancient Israelites in the Sinai Desert. After that, the Grits was not heard from for another 1000 years. Experts feel that the Grits was used during this time only during secret religious ceremonies, and was kept from the public due to it's rarity. The next mention of the Grits was found amidst the ruins of the ancient city of Pompeii in a woman's personal diary. The woman's name was Herculaneum Jemimaneus (Aunt Jamima to her friends.)
The 10 Commandments of Grits:
I. Thou shalt not put syrup on thy Grits
II. Thou shalt not eat thy Grits with a spoon or knife
III. Thou shalt not eat Cream of Wheat and call it Grits, for this is blasphemy
IV. Thou shalt not covet thy neighbors Grits
V. Thou shalt use only Salt, Butter, and red eye gravy as toppings for thy Grits
VI Thou shalt not eat Instant Grits
VII. Thou shalt not put ketchup on thy Grits
VIII. Thou shalt not put margarine on thy Grits.
IX. Thou shalt not eat toast with thy Grits, only biscuits made from scratch .
X. Thou shalt eat grits on the Sabbath for this is manna from heaven.
How to Cook Grits: For one serving of Grits: Boil 1.5 cups of water with salt and a little butter. Add 5 TBsp of Grits. Reduce to a simmer and allow the Grits to soak up all the water. When a pencil stuck into the grits stands alone, it is done. That's all there is to cooking grits.
How to make red eye gravy :Fry salt cured country ham in cast iron pan. Remove the ham when done and add coffee to the gravy and simmer for several minutes. Great on grits and biscuits.
How to Eat Grits :Immediately after removing your grits from the stove top, add a generous portion of butter or red eye gravy. (WARNING: Do NOT use low-fat butter.) The butter should cause t he Grits to turn a wondrous shade of yellow. (Hold a banana or a yellow rain slicker next to your Grits; if the colors match, you have the correct amount of butter.) In lieu of butter, pour a generous helping of red eye gravy on your grits. Be sure to pour enough to have some left for sopping up with your biscuits. Never, ever substitute canned or store bought biscuits for the real thing bec ause they can cause cancer, rotten teeth and impotence.Next, add salt. (NOTICE: The correct ration of Grit to Salt is 10:1 Therefore for every 10 grits, you should have 1 grain of salt.) Now begin eating your grits. Always use a fork, never a spoon, to eat Grits. Your grits should be thick enough so they do not run through the tines of the fork. The correct beverage to serve with Grits is black coffee. DO NOT use cream or, heaven forbid, Skim Milk.) Your grits should never be eaten in a bowl because Yankees will think it's Cream of Wheat.
Ways to Eat Leftover Grits: (Leftover grits are extremely rare) Spread them in the bottom of a casserole dish, Cover and place them in the refrigerator overnight. The Grits will congeal into a gelatinous mass. Next morning, slice the Grits into squares and fry them in 1/2' of cooking oil and butter until they turn a golden brown. Many people are tempted to pour syrup onto Grits served this way. This is, of course, totally unacceptable.
SOUTHERN BLESSING BEFORE EATING GRITS
May the lord bless these grits,
May no Yankee ever get the recipe,
May I eat grits every day while living,
And may I die while eating grits.
AMEN
Sunday, January 25, 2009
Dwayne Stomp PSA - try these links
I understand that some of my followers have had a problem accessing the Dwayne Stomp PSA. Here are a few suggestions. All worked for me. The only difference I can come up with is that I was signed in to youtube.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zULzbiGNTyI
Dwayne Stomp
or go to youtube and type in "stomp public service" and it will bring it up. Or try this link
It is worth the effort.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zULzbiGNTyI
Dwayne Stomp
or go to youtube and type in "stomp public service" and it will bring it up. Or try this link
It is worth the effort.
A rational view of love
I'm currently reading The Reason For God by Timothy Keller. It was a Christmas gift from my oldest son. It is a book specifically for Agnostics like me. So far, it has been an interesting read. I would recommend it to any Agnostic, Atheist or Skeptic. It is not preachy.
I just finished Chapter Three (Christianity Is a Straitjacket). A few quotes caught my brain and necessitated re-reading.
In The Four Loves, C.S. Lewis wrote:
"Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket - safe, dark, motionless, airless - it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. The alternative to tragedy, or at least to the risk of tragedy, is damnation."
That struck me as enlightening and profound. One of my first feelings was a feeling of awe that someone could put pen to paper and express such a deep thought. And that they would be willing to bare their soul and share the thought.
Keller writes:
""When you fall deeply in love, you want to please the beloved. You don't wait for the person to ask you to do something for her. You eagerly research and learn every little thing that brings her pleasure. Then you get it for her, even if it costs you money or great inconvenience. "Your wish is my command," you feel - and it doesn't feel oppressive at all. From the outside, bemused friends may think, "She's leading him around by the nose," but from the inside it feels like heaven.""
I guess we're back to the standard about "better to have loved and lost". Or that love makes you do stupid things or act like a fool. My opinion is that most of us have some humanity within us. Our individual collective (that is NOT an oxymoron if you take a minute to think about it) personal history has forged what we interpret as important enough or worthy of our love. What matters is that we don't fall prey to the "safety" of disdaining love or, to paraphrase Lewis: The alternative to the tragedy of a painful love is damnation. If you're going to be damned if you do and damned if you don't, you may as well gather some pleasant memories that will bring a smile to your face when you're 88 and sitting in that rocking chair in the sun room.
I just finished Chapter Three (Christianity Is a Straitjacket). A few quotes caught my brain and necessitated re-reading.
In The Four Loves, C.S. Lewis wrote:
"Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket - safe, dark, motionless, airless - it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. The alternative to tragedy, or at least to the risk of tragedy, is damnation."
That struck me as enlightening and profound. One of my first feelings was a feeling of awe that someone could put pen to paper and express such a deep thought. And that they would be willing to bare their soul and share the thought.
Keller writes:
""When you fall deeply in love, you want to please the beloved. You don't wait for the person to ask you to do something for her. You eagerly research and learn every little thing that brings her pleasure. Then you get it for her, even if it costs you money or great inconvenience. "Your wish is my command," you feel - and it doesn't feel oppressive at all. From the outside, bemused friends may think, "She's leading him around by the nose," but from the inside it feels like heaven.""
I guess we're back to the standard about "better to have loved and lost". Or that love makes you do stupid things or act like a fool. My opinion is that most of us have some humanity within us. Our individual collective (that is NOT an oxymoron if you take a minute to think about it) personal history has forged what we interpret as important enough or worthy of our love. What matters is that we don't fall prey to the "safety" of disdaining love or, to paraphrase Lewis: The alternative to the tragedy of a painful love is damnation. If you're going to be damned if you do and damned if you don't, you may as well gather some pleasant memories that will bring a smile to your face when you're 88 and sitting in that rocking chair in the sun room.
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